I miss what this place used to be

[Dorothy Wood]

Me too. My life is pretty hard right now, but I don't wanna talk about it specifically, this place seems not so anonymous anymore. It's maybe gonna get better though. I'm weirdly calm about the chaos happening. Also I'm pretty sure I have aspergers, I've talked about it before here. I never know how to respond to people correctly, and often people are mad at me for not being enthusiastic enough. Or people think I'm mad all the time, when I'm not...or get their feelings hurt because I'm insensitive to people's emotions. Anyway, the people close to me are understanding. The general public, no so much. But the public is full of dumbasses.

I'm old too, but I still get carded

[Randetica]

i moved out of a horrible place in utah then moved to oregon, got my baby boy two days after and met deep sea rain and his wife

[ma belle]

It was a hoot for a while wasn't it guys?

[Rock-A]

I think I would have been so much more productive at work if it wasn't for this place back in the early 2000s. Good times, good times.

[Dorothy Wood]

im in LA, but I can't go anywhere on my own because I'm trapped with my boyfriend's family. I hate the dad. I'm glad I didn't grow up with a dad. They're always so mad. Fuckin dads...I hope my generation will have better dads.

[Adam]

<group_hug>

^for those who want a group hug and have consented but those that want to stand on the outside - know the warmth extends to you too.

I was thinking about this place other day and kinda realising I haven't made any major life decisions without consulting bbmb first. Which also means I haven't made any major life decision recently which may mean I'm stuck in a rut.

Not sure if I am. Been with my partner 5 years so that's good. Closer to 40 than 30 now which is OK but I did first log on this place as a teenager!

Memories.

[Dorothy Wood]

I guess it's still a place where you can write things when you're drunk and forget that you wrote it.

[b-grrrlie]

Originally Posted by Dorothy Wood

Me too. My life is pretty hard right now, but I don't wanna talk about it specifically, this place seems not so anonymous anymore. It's maybe gonna get better though. I'm weirdly calm about the chaos happening. Also I'm pretty sure I have aspergers, I've talked about it before here. I never know how to respond to people correctly, and often people are mad at me for not being enthusiastic enough. Or people think I'm mad all the time, when I'm not...or get their feelings hurt because I'm insensitive to people's emotions. Anyway, the people close to me are understanding. The general public, no so much. But the public is full of dumbasses.

I'm old too, but I still get carded

I was diagnosed for Aspergers about 18 months ago! It took over two years.... It made me understand myself much better (all the collecting, failing in relationships, bad memory, emotionless for certain things, seeing small details, short attention span....)! Also now I get help cleaning and organizing at home (3 hours a week! ) and free dental care (as I've been scared of dentists) for four years to begin with. I don't know if it covers free teeth (I have two missing), but there could be a chance.

[camo]

Originally Posted by b-grrrlie

I was diagnosed for Aspergers about 18 months ago! It took over two years.... It made me understand myself much better (all the collecting, failing in relationships, bad memory, emotionless for certain things, seeing small details, short attention span....)!

I'm currently going through diagnosis for this. My current girlfriend is a teacher who specialises in children with learning difficulties - predominantly Autism and Aspergers. We've been together for over two years now and through that time she has recognised me displaying so many of the symptoms. It started of as a bit of a joke; her noticing my obsessive collecting, forgetting dates, getting super annoyed at tiny little problems with our new house (cracks in skirting boards, scuffs on walls etc), hating being touched and preferring my own space and company.

How has it changed your life now that you've been diagnosed?

[b-grrrlie]

Originally Posted by b-grrrlie

I was diagnosed for Aspergers about 18 months ago! It took over two years.... It made me understand myself much better (all the collecting, failing in relationships, bad memory, emotionless for certain things, seeing small details, short attention span....)!

Originally Posted by camo

I'm currently going through diagnosis for this. My current girlfriend is a teacher who specialises in children with learning difficulties - predominantly Autism and Aspergers. We've been together for over two years now and through that time she has recognised me displaying so many of the symptoms. It started of as a bit of a joke; her noticing my obsessive collecting, forgetting dates, getting super annoyed at tiny little problems with our new house (cracks in skirting boards, scuffs on walls etc), hating being touched and preferring my own space and company.

How has it changed your life now that you've been diagnosed?

Well, mainly it has made me understand myself much better, why I was such a tomboy as a kid, why I get easily annoyed when people don't do stuff they're supposed to do and me myself am much worse. The help I get every week has been god's send, trying to get organized and getting just through daily routines. The routines are very important as I am terrible if I misplace stuff, I can get a quiet tantrum by myself when I've misplaces something and can totally panic, empty every bag and throw things around (and just leave them there...). So putting your keys or any other item in a specific place is really important. I'm still missing my digital scales that have been on a specific place in my cupboard since I bought it and we (me and a helper) had to clear the whole cupboard after I found a meal beetle in a flour bag and I don't know where it is since then and I need it almost weekly...
Also I realize myself when I disrupt someone, thinking of just giving a bit of advice, but they find me more like a besserwisser. Actually I couldn't continue my seasonal job because of that, after five summer seasons... Found out about it afterwards why I wasn't welcome back. So these days I try to be very careful not to advise anyone if not asked to...
When it comes to relationships, I'm getting being a better and better friend with my old fb, noticing that he as well must have Aspergers. Sometimes it feels like we really should be together for real, but then we both get scared.
Also writing things-to-do lists have always been good to do, it's so satisfying when you can tick off something! Sometimes I write really essential things on the list (like water the flowers or make lunch for tomorrow) just to be able to cross over something.

[camo]

Originally Posted by b-grrrlie

Well, mainly it has made me understand myself much better, why I was such a tomboy as a kid, why I get easily annoyed when people don't do stuff they're supposed to do and me myself am much worse. The help I get every week has been god's send, trying to get organized and getting just through daily routines. The routines are very important as I am terrible if I misplace stuff, I can get a quiet tantrum by myself when I've misplaces something and can totally panic, empty every bag and throw things around (and just leave them there...). So putting your keys or any other item in a specific place is really important. I'm still missing my digital scales that have been on a specific place in my cupboard since I bought it and we (me and a helper) had to clear the whole cupboard after I found a meal beetle in a flour bag and I don't know where it is since then and I need it almost weekly...
Also I realize myself when I disrupt someone, thinking of just giving a bit of advice, but they find me more like a besserwisser. Actually I couldn't continue my seasonal job because of that, after five summer seasons... Found out about it afterwards why I wasn't welcome back. So these days I try to be very careful not to advise anyone if not asked to...
When it comes to relationships, I'm getting being a better and better friend with my old fb, noticing that he as well must have Aspergers. Sometimes it feels like we really should be together for real, but then we both get scared.
Also writing things-to-do lists have always been good to do, it's so satisfying when you can tick off something! Sometimes I write really essential things on the list (like water the flowers or make lunch for tomorrow) just to be able to cross over something.

I can fully empathise with you on the placement of things. I've had my keys on the same lanyard for roughly 15 years. I keep them in the same pocket and even wear it when I don't even need my keys - i.e. when I'm on holiday or in another country altogether. I have to have my phone, wallet and iPod in a specific pocket and this never, ever changes. I've even made a return journey of five hours (each way) to retrieve them when I left them at a friends - I couldn't cope knowing that they weren't in their rightful place. I can't imagine how my girlfriend puts up with me because I know for sure that many girls couldn't. I've been labelled pretentious, apathetic and unloving by many an ex in the past. Pretty much all of my relationships have ended because they're just too tired of my actions!

Change is also a bad thing for me. I've fallen out with friends for simply changing plans we've made. Just the notion of someone saying that they'll do one thing, and then doing another makes me antsy and aggravated. I find myself internalising a lot of anger and vitriol towards people who change something I'm doing/going to/wanting etc.

I could go on but I'm sure you've heard it all or done it already. I'm just happy that I'll soon be able to label it and deal with it in my own way

[b-grrrlie]

Originally Posted by camo

I can fully empathise with you on the placement of things. .... I've even made a return journey of five hours (each way) to retrieve them when I left them at a friends - I couldn't cope knowing that they weren't in their rightful place.

I forgot my ring at a friend's place after a midsummer party when I'd done the dishes. I don't wear that ring that oft, but it has a special meaning to me, and I keep thinking about it all the time! He said he'll bring it the next time we see, no worries, but I wish I had gone back the moment I noticed I'd forgotten it...

Originally Posted by camo

I'm just happy that I'll soon be able to label it and deal with it in my own way

Getting a label on it has helped me a lot! Also I understand other people better as well. I can easily see who's an Aspie as well

[camo]

Originally Posted by b-grrrlie

I forgot my ring at a friend's place after a midsummer party when I'd done the dishes. I don't wear that ring that oft, but it has a special meaning to me, and I keep thinking about it all the time! He said he'll bring it the next time we see, no worries, but I wish I had gone back the moment I noticed I'd forgotten it...


Getting a label on it has helped me a lot! Also I understand other people better as well. I can easily see who's an Aspie as well

Haha I like that name!