So I may wind up killing myself later...

[ToucanSpam]

While I agree that it is a bad idea to kill yourself, I really, really think you should just let this slide. Unless, however unlikely, she makes a move on you, you should just remain friends. KP brings up a point I want to shoehorn into my suggestion. Do you plan on marrying her? Probably not. She isn't 'the one' and you're too young to get serious about a relationship. You know what's more important at this point? Being successful in your career. Take it from me, when you can cash in on a successful career, all of those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will want something more substantial that includes financial security and intelligence.


...or not, you know. You could just go for it and have it blow up in your face. Your call.

[Myu-to]

Originally Posted by ToucanSpam

While I agree that it is a bad idea to kill yourself...

Sometimes your insight astounds me.

[ToucanSpam]

Who are you again?

[Myu-to]

No one of any significance.

[ToucanSpam]

You look familiar.

[monkey]

i love love love my adam_f, but i'm willing to share with a real life girl. dude, i wouldnt go up to the girl and say "ive liked you forever" but instead... make a subtler move. start being extra friendly. make it clear(er) to her that you like her and you're going to start kissing her soon or something. put your arm around her waist and start holding a hug a little extra long. she then has the ability to either stop you or go for it. no pressure. no declarations of love. let the like build organically.


(p.s: dont die. if you die, im gonna come kill you. <3)

[Bob]

you're afraid of girls? what are you gay or something?

[Dorothy Wood]

Originally Posted by ToucanSpam

Take it from me, when you can cash in on a successful career, all of those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will want something more substantial that includes financial security and intelligence.

uh, hello? ^
I'm not trolling, dumb ass. you just constantly say stupid shit. you're gonna have to make a lot of money to compensate for your terrible personality.



and adam, that sucks. good thing you didn't out and out tell her you liked her I guess. that's strange behavior on her part, she doesn't seem very nice, even for a friend. sorry

[ToucanSpam]

Originally Posted by Dorothy Wood

uh, hello? ^
I'm not trolling, dumb ass. you just constantly say stupid shit. you're gonna have to make a lot of money to compensate for your terrible personality.

You need to learn how to not take the internet so seriously, kid. This is bordering on pathetic.

[Bob]

Originally Posted by ToucanSpam

You need to learn how to not take the internet so seriously, kid. This is bordering on pathetic.

"kid"

[Bob]

Originally Posted by Dorothy Wood

good thing you didn't out and out tell her you liked her I guess.

imagine how dumb he'd have looked if he'd followed everyone else's advice in this thread and told her how he felt

that's gonna fuck with your head, isn't it adam? it would surely fuck with mine

[Dorothy Wood]

Originally Posted by Bob

imagine how dumb he'd have looked if he'd followed everyone else's advice in this thread and told her how he felt

that's gonna fuck with your head, isn't it adam? it would surely fuck with mine

I didn't say he should tell her, just try to put some moves on and back off if it didn't get a response. and he did put the moves on, albeit via IM, but they were still moves and she reacted like a bitch. so now he can either wait and try again some other time or just let it go.

I dated someone a while back who kept pursuing me even though I was kind of a bitch at first. for some reason it just didn't register that he was interested in me. we ended up dating for about 7 months, he wasn't right for me, but we are still friends and love each other.


toucan, go put on some chapstick.

[cookiepuss]

shit man, I don't see why he'd be making an ass out of himself by telling her how he feels regardless of how she reacted to the news. but I guess honesty is overrated.

when guy friends of mine have expressed interest as more than a friend I never thought they were an ass, I didn't laugh in their face. I was flattered and said oh no I'm sorry that's not going to work out buddy.

what did he have to lose by telling her really? he didn't have her before he expressed interest, and well he still doesn't have her. nothing gained, nothing lost. yeah the friendship part can be awkward after such an admission...but ti doesn't usually end the friendship unless you just weren't that good of friends to begin with.

I think what he did was fine, and all the advice given was fine too...except mine. love letters are dumb. lol.

and toucan you're chickenshit. bawk bawk!

[ToucanSpam]

Your idealistic, naive approaches to romance are so cute.

[cookiepuss]

Originally Posted by ToucanSpam

Your idealistic, naive approaches to romance are so cute.

yeah...probably why I'm single again....I am idealistic. it's true.

[Bjork]

Well, I am just expressing to him my experience.

Every situation is different.

Something to think about Adam. 5 years ago I didn't want to date my best friend Nick, and now that I lost him because I rejected him and his ego was shot. if I was given a second oppurtunity today to be more than friends with him, my answer would be yes.

Maybe you should just hold off for a little bit, I mean what's the rush anyway?

[RobMoney$]

Originally Posted by ToucanSpam

Unless, however unlikely, she makes a move on you, you should just remain friends. KP brings up a point I want to shoehorn into my suggestion. Do you plan on marrying her? Probably not. She isn't 'the one' and you're too young to get serious about a relationship. You know what's more important at this point? Being successful in your career. Take it from me, when you can cash in on a successful career, all of those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will want something more substantial that includes financial security and intelligence.

If only I could make this entire post my sig.

Possibly the deepest thing ever posted in the history of the BBMB.
Either this or Kenny Guido's myspace links.

[adam_f]

Originally posted by ToucanSpam
Unless, however unlikely, she makes a move on you, you should just remain friends. KP brings up a point I want to shoehorn into my suggestion. Do you plan on marrying her? Probably not. She isn't 'the one' and you're too young to get serious about a relationship. You know what's more important at this point? Being successful in your career. Take it from me, when you can cash in on a successful career, all of those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will want something more substantial that includes financial security and intelligence.

I don't remember if I responded to this but oh well.

I'm 22 years old, I found a girl I liked, and wanted to make a move. No plans of marriage or waiting until I'm financially secure in my endeavors required. I just wanted somebody to be with until the time comes when I'm ready to actually move forward with my life. I never said anything about marriage and quite frankly since we're not even a couple that shouldn't even be brought up, and I don't care if those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will start jocking the guys who made something of themselves. That's further on down the line and that vaguely suggests I should remain alone for the time being to focus on my career, when this is really the prologue to the remaining chapters of my life. I'm going to have a career, yes, and a wife and some kids, but right now, all I wanted was that one girl.

And, like I already said earlier, I'm not going to get that girl, career and marriage and athletes be damned.

[adam_f]

Just as a heads up, I did wind up telling her and she LOVES (she emphasized loves) being friends with me but that's about as far as it's gonna go. Apparently she was pretty much aware of my crush on her so it really wasn't news, and I guess now we just wait and see how awkward things are, but I don't think it'll be that bad.

So yeah, I feel better telling her even though it's not gonna work out but at the same time, this kinda sucks really bad.

[ms.peachy]

Originally Posted by adam_f

So yeah, I feel better telling her even though it's not gonna work out but at the same time, this kinda sucks really bad.

Yeah, I'm sure it does. Because it's a wound, you know? You're hurt. But the good news is, you'll heal. In the meantime, it's totally acceptable to take a day or two - but not any more than that - and feel completely and utterly sorry for yourself, lock yourself in your room, listen to songs that will make you cry, eat a gallon of ice cream (Ok maybe that part is a girl-thing, I dunno, do boys drown their sorrows in ice cream?). Then have a good nights sleep, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with life, soldier.

[russhie]

I WANT TO SPEND TIME IN THE FRIEND ZONE

Let's trade places.

[Lex Diamonds]

Originally Posted by ms.peachy

In the meantime, it's totally acceptable to take a day or two - but not any more than that - and feel completely and utterly sorry for yourself, lock yourself in your room, listen to songs that will make you cry, eat a gallon of ice cream (Ok maybe that part is a girl-thing, I dunno, do boys drown their sorrows in ice cream?).

Nah, whiskey.

[venusvenus123]

i'm glad you told her. glad you feel better too.


roll with the punches

[russhie]

This is a great thread. Good work, Adam f.

[RobMoney$]

Originally Posted by ; Toucan Spam

Take it from me, when you can cash in on a successful career, all of those sexy ladies who had their fill of college athletes will want something more substantial that includes financial security and intelligence.

Take it from him.


Toucan has apparently become Donald Trump and now has models fawning over his bank statement.

[Kid Presentable]

Toucan fucked my sister then phoned me the next morning to tell me she was a sack of spuds.

[beastieangel01]

Originally Posted by Kid Presentable

Toucan fucked my sister then phoned me the next morning to tell me she was a sack of spuds.

ahahahaha

adam_f, if it's any consolation, I still love you.

[jabumbo]

Originally Posted by beastieangel01

ahahahaha

adam_f, if it's any consolation, I still love you.

me too, buddy, me too

[Bob]

Originally Posted by Kid Presentable

Toucan fucked my sister then phoned me the next morning to tell me she was a sack of spuds.

he once did the same thing to me. i was all "but toucan that's crazy, i don't even have a sister" and he said "yeah well i'm so rich that i bought you one, then i fucked her - DEAL WITH IT" and i was like "damn"

[adam_f]

Originally posted by beastieangel01
adam_f, if it's any consolation, I still love you.

And I'll let you love me...all night long