i have the right to be worried!

[monkey]

right?

the bf blacked out last night, fell backwards and hit his head on the concrete ground of his garage. he was out for about 15 secs. he wakes up, i have my hand on his head and i see my hand it's covered in blood. he had a split, not too deep, but bleeding like crazy. he has almost normal vision except the lower left quadrant of his eyesight is grey. once inside, he starts to vomit. he gets taken to the ER, he gets xrays and ct scanned and then eventually stapled back together. the doc said it was a mild concussion, but he's basically ok. he needs rest and shit.

now, he was planning on going upstate to visit his friends for a weekend of man-bonding or whatever it is that you call when you boys get all shitfaced together and then throw up together in a circle jerk. i say he probably shouldnt go, not this weekend, because he's still in a delicate condition. he says i worry too much and he'll be fine.

who's right, miss manners, who's right?

[Lex Diamonds]

If he wants to go and drink then let him. If the hole in his head really is that bad then the drink will just seep out of it and he won't get drunk anyway.

So it's a win-win stiuation.

[g-mile7]

U do. This could B a defining moment in Ur relationship

[abcdefz]

I'd say he should rest. If he refuses, then insist that he leave his car (?) parked and some friend does all the driving. Also, make sure he's got any emergency family/friend numbers written down along with insurance information, juuuuuuust in case. Then hope for the best.

If he has a concussion, there's a decent chance he'll be nauseous, anyway. I can't imagine wanting to get drunk on top of that. When I've had head injuries, I've been bed-bound for one-three weeks.

[beastiegirrl101]

although I agree with what A-Z said...lets be honest here, he's a guy and if you start telling him what you think he should and shouldnt do, he'll freak out like most guys do when they feel backed into a corner. Not saying this is how your man is....let him go with his friends and have fun. He'll be fine...and try and get some sleep tonight when he is gone...no waiting by the phone.

oh and if you can, go out with your freinds...if you stay in all you'll do is think about him, wait for his call ect. ect. . . and thats not healthy.

[TAL]

I was out for more than 15 seconds.

[Dorothy Wood]

wait, why did he black out in the first place?

[QueenAdrock]

Boys are stupid. That being said, I'd probably want to still go out with my friends if I were him. It doesn't mean it'd be a GOOD idea, though. If I were you, I'd tell him to go but tell him to take it easy and bring a cell just in case he needs to go back to the hospital...or at least, inform his friends of what happened so they can be aware in case something does go wrong.

Hearing what happened, he should be okay. But there are questions of "what if" so just let him go and be prepared.

[b i o n i c]

if you REALLY want him to stay, you could try bribing him...

get something REALLY hot to wear, get some excellent bud, make your place and fridge really comfy and tell him to stay and let you 'take care' of his boo-boo's... a nice relaxing rainy weekend with the lady

[cookiepuss]

Originally Posted by Dorothy Wood

wait, why did he black out in the first place?

I second that emotion. did he black out cause he was drinking/doing drugs or was he just shooting te shit and then blacked out?

Because I would be more concerned if he was just fine one second and out the next without any contributing factors like substances of the legal or illegal kind.


also head injuries bleed alot, often even if the are minor so that not a big deal. But having a concusion is kind of a big deal.

I think you have every right to want him not to go. but he will do what he wants because nobody owns another person. but yeah I think he's a poo poo head for not listening to reason.

[abcdefz]

A concussion is worse than a skull fracture, because it doesn't let the pressure out, off the brain. Nothing to fuck with.

[monkey]

he passed out due to one giant bong hit. lack of oxygen, apparently. he decided to go. nothing i can do about it. though he claims he wont drink, he'll just chill and play video games while the rest of them fuck around. but, whatever. i told him how i felt about it, and he decided that he needs to go anyway, his choice. odesnt stop me from worrying like a motherfucker all weekend. im gonna need to have stupid girl time to make my brain just forget for a bit.

[paul jones]

hope he gets better soon Pauli.

Tell him to take a 10 minute break from video games every hour though.

[Echewta]

I think its important to voice your concerns for his safety. You should be able to speak freely about the one you are in a relationship with.

Passing out from doing a bong hit? errr. Maybe hes a bit too addicted to the pot?

Let him know you don't want him to go and if he descides to, then at least you said your peace.

[adam_f]

I wouldn't go. I've had two concussions, and it took quite awhile for me to feel safe to act stupid again, let alone a week after I got hurt.

Make him stay Pauli. And change your name back to Pauli. I refuse to refer to you by the simian name.

[enree erzweglle]

Why did he black out in the first place? Was it from drinking? If so, I might be more worried about that having happened than him travelling while having a concussion?

[enree erzweglle]

Originally Posted by monkey

he passed out due to one giant bong hit. lack of oxygen, apparently. he decided to go. nothing i can do about it. though he claims he wont drink, he'll just chill and play video games while the rest of them fuck around. but, whatever. i told him how i felt about it, and he decided that he needs to go anyway, his choice. odesnt stop me from worrying like a motherfucker all weekend. im gonna need to have stupid girl time to make my brain just forget for a bit.

Ooops. I should have read the entire thread first.

Probably one of the hardest things about relationships is when the other person does what you think is a stupid thing and does it despite knowing that it's a stupid thing. It leaves you to hold this big bag of frustration, especially if the stupid thing results in a mess that will involve you in some way.

As I get older, I find that it's easier to let things like that go, but when the stupid things that other people do affect me directly and I'm in a position of only accepting the consequences (i.e., of not having the ability to change the actions/outcome), then that tries a different side of my patience.