being single

[beastieangel01]

so
those of you with more experience and those that are older, I suppose...

do you think it's important to be single at a young age?

I ask because sometimes, I think about the fact that I haven't been single longer than 5 months since I was 16. Now I'm 23. And I'm not sure how healthy that is.

[befsquire]

there is no magical amount of time being single that makes anything good or bad. it's about whether you can be happy on your own during those times between relationships. if you are perfectly happy on your own, then you don't need someone to complete you, and you're much more likely to continue along a path that's productive for whatever your future goals are. if you can't be happy on your own, then any relationship you are in may end up with you compromising your goals to meet whatever agenda the guy has, which may end up with you being upset in the future.

so

don't worry about the time between relationships, think about whether, during those times, you are truly happy with yourself.

[Deep_Sea_Rain]

I haven't been single since the early months of '04, I don't even remember what it's like.

Great advice too Bef...your like Jesus or something. With a gun.

[befsquire]

^ it's because i've walked this earth for thousands of years.

[Randetica]

been single all my life, im starting to get tired of it *yards*

[Randetica]

Originally Posted by Deep_Sea_Rain

I haven't been single since the early months of '04, I don't even remember what it's like.

STFU! :D

[b-grrrlie]

I don't really know what it's like to be in a real relationship...

[Caribou]

Originally Posted by b-grrrlie

I don't really know what it's like to be in a real relationship...

Me neither. I think that of the 10 months that we stated ourselves 'a couple' I've only physically been with him for about 14 days. That's kinda sucky.

Oh well, I'm not expecting anything to happen anytime soon, but I don't really feel like it has to. I'm having a good time on my own and with my friends. Ofcourse it would be nice to have a bf, but it's also good to known I can be independent. *sings* I don't need a maaaan to make it hap-peeen...

[insertnamehere]

Originally Posted by CoolDog182

Well i think that's a good thing until you find someone you want to stick with. I started on a relationship and cut it off short because I don't want to play people out knowing full well that I'm gona end it further down the line anyway.

My reasoning for this is that I want to experience certain events with someone really special, like the first time going on holiday and stuff etc etc

Yeah, until I get dumped of course, but I think it's a good sentiment.

That's kinda how I feel about the situation. I don't want to waste my time with someone who will dump me in three months who I'll barely remember in 10 years. On the flip side of that, if I continue to avoid the opposite sex I'll never find anyone. It's a sticky situation.

Sometimes having a bf would be nice. I want cuddles and affections and love and secks, and someone to share special things with and talk to and all those things associated with a great relationship, and cuddles and secks. But in the end it seems like too much trouble and I don't trust it.

[Bob]

Originally Posted by Gday.Joel

I have never had a girlfriend haha.

yeah me too

that can't be very healthy

[insertnamehere]

Originally Posted by beastieangel01

so
those of you with more experience and those that are older, I suppose...

do you think it's important to be single at a young age?

I ask because sometimes, I think about the fact that I haven't been single longer than 5 months since I was 16. Now I'm 23. And I'm not sure how healthy that is.

You've never been single for a long period of time because you're pretty much the hottest girl ever, and can have your way with any guy you like. I say use that power to it's fullest potential.

[DandyFop]

Oiii, single life. What Heiress said. Except for the skinnier part, but without wasting all my time on someone who will eventually turn out to be a douchebag, I am working on improving myself and my life. And I love it.

This is the first time in my life I can remember being happy without having the interest of some boy or wanting a boyfriend or having a boyfriend or whatever. It feels so good to not want it anymore. I finally care more about getting what I really want out of life than investing it all in someone else when the outcome more likely than not is just going to be useless. Plus I don't really give a shit what I look like when I go out of the house now, that's nice.

I guess I sound kinda bitter, but I don't know what it is - if my ex being a total dickhead to me is what caused this, I'm very thankful for that.

[Suavee-Bolo]

I think you can close the thread after Beth's post.

Damn, that's some good insight.

[beastieangel01]

yeah what Beth said is pretty spot on.

I definitely need some more alone time, then.

[PheonixFire]

whether you are in a relationship or single.... alone time is best.
i believe all it takes is yourself to be truely happy... but the path to getting there may be rough. you must be happy with yourself...

[ToucanSpam]

Originally Posted by beastieangel01

so
those of you with more experience and those that are older, I suppose...

do you think it's important to be single at a young age?

I ask because sometimes, I think about the fact that I haven't been single longer than 5 months since I was 16. Now I'm 23. And I'm not sure how healthy that is.

Okay, here's my two cents.

I've been single 99% of my life up to this point. I know some of you might be thinking 'yeah, big surprise' but it's mostly by choice, save for a couple times I have been shot down. Truth is that for some people, careers and life goals come first over romance. I personally place my career and my educational future first, which works for me. This doesn't mean that I don't have fun now and again, I do, but I've learned to deal with things independantly and without emotional support of a significant other. I look at some of my friends who have been dating the same person for 3-6 years or been dating someone seriously over a string of 3-6 years and they just don't have the same kind of independance and the same kind of inner strength that people who have been on their own have.

On the other side of the coin, people who remain single for long periods of time don't know how to deal with relationships well. I mean, eventually they may but for the most part they lack good skills in the field of romance.

So, when it comes to answering your question, it all depends on the individual and what they want. If someone wants the experience of romantic relationships in young adulthood, they should strive to achieve it. There's nothing wrong with it and it offers a chance to grow emotionally. If someone wants to remain single and deal with personal issues and experience life without relying on anyone for support, they should also give it a try.

There's pros and cons to both and it all comes down to what an individual wants.

[Drederick Tatum]

I haven't been single for nearly 7 years. I wouldn't change that, but I do miss the thrill of the chase.

[Suavee-Bolo]

Beth's post makes me feel like a co-dependant loser for having a girlfriend. LOLZ

[roosta]

your damned if you do and your damned if you dont...

Like Drederick said....I wouldn't change being with my girlfriend, but at the same time I do miss aspects of single life. Generally I miss that total independence, like on the weekend not having to check with anybody else if I wanted to do something with my time...stuff like that. But i am happy.

I guess what Beth said really is the bottom line, its bout being happy...

[Chicka B]

Yeah I've felt as if I were failing at life because I didn't have a boyfriend, but realized I never even wanted one. It was just the peer pressure and society.

[like2_drink]

now lets remember that i'm blunt, but pretty sweet

being 18 and single and knowin i can get with a category of women, suddenly finding 1 in particular that i wanna be with really changed me i think. happy and caring aren't things that i like but can no longer shake.