things to talk about on first dates

[Nuzzolese]

RIRV U BIOTCH!#* U said U wer 2 tyrd 2go out last nite. Tina eyeballd U with that HORE Ben at Bucky's Crab Broil. He tarded! Why u all lyn?

I'm spazzing so hard over this.

[Kid Presentable]

I never really went on a date, as it's not something that's really the cultural norm. This is all quite the ritual. I have slept with women and subsequently taken them out for a meal in the past, but the reverse way seems much tougher.

[Echewta]

How long do I have to wait for you honey to take it your gone?

[RobMoney$]

And don't even think about announcing that you've finally lost your V in this thread...as if it's some throw away comment or something.

Shit deserves it's own thread.


Hell, I may even petition TPK to make an entirely new forum for it.

[b i o n i c]

im pretty sure bobs not a virgin

boners.

[Guy Incognito]

hey bob, did you go for a night out with her yesterday?

I'm not asking you to divulge full on details but can we at least have an initial of this girl's first name so we dont have to keep referring to her as her or she or the girl?

[Bob]

she's a grad student and she has a big exam on monday so she was busy this weekend. no biggie - i actually knew about the test already, i'm not sure why i thought saturday would work in retrospect. i'm gonna call her tuesday and we'll do something next week. i figure she probably has her own plans to celebrate on monday, i'm just gonna back off and let her do her thing - i mean she likes me but at the moment i am just some dude from the internet that she's dating, i figure she'll want to be with friends and stuff

i don't think i'm gonna post her name or anything, that feels weird to me

[insertnamehere]

make up a name. stelllllaaaaaaaaaa

[Guy Incognito]

i don't think i'm gonna post her name or anything, that feels weird to me

fair do's , didnt think you would just thought i would ask cos i was running out of ideas to solve the her/she problem but INH has sorted it, can believe i didnt think of this before

make up a name. stelllllaaaaaaaaaa

i think thats a good idea , i may even refer to her with different names each time .

[Bob]

you can call her swarley vulkan if you'd like

[Adam]

If we guess her name, will you say?

Mary?

[Guy Incognito]

roberta?

[Adam]

Phillipe

[Bob]

it's jeff :(

[Adam]

Jeff is a good strong name. You sure its not spelled Geoff to? Like you've seen it in text or you might have a bit of a faux pas on your hands.

[Guy Incognito]

Jeff is a good strong name. You sure its not spelled Geoff to? Like you've seen it in text or you might have a bit of a faux pas on your hands.

is jeff stronger name than geoff?

[Adam]

I think Geoff would be into more kinky shit than Jeff but both will be good strong lovers I'd expect

[Bob]

i know a girl who married a guy named geoff. he doesn't seem like the kinky type. he went to seminary school and she's very catholic

but i guess it's always the ones you least suspect

[rirv]

There's a girl in one of my classes called Guy.

[Guy Incognito]

There's a girl in one of my classes called Guy.

bugger off

[rirv]

For real I
Am not lying. It's
Crazy, isn't it? It's another sign of
The times. What a load of
Shite.

[Guy Incognito]

yeah all right luv, save it for the football threads.

[Bob]

alright another question. maybe a pathetic one. i'm pretty drunk, bear with me here

how often can/should i call/text without coming off as clingy or whatever at this point? like, we went out on wednesday, and i texted her a few hours later with what i thought at the time was a cute message (something about the world series being over and now we get a short break from baseball, which i thought was cute because there were loud baseball fans at the bar we went to that night and neither of us give a shit about sports), and she didn't respond to it but i figured that's ok, there really wasn't anything to respond to. then i called her friday afternoon to ask her out on saturday, and she left me a message later that night (i was wasted and at a loud bar so i didn't pick up) saying "this weekend doesn't work because i've got a big test on monday but we should do something after, that'd be good" so i didn't say or do anything until sunday night when i sent her a text saying "good luck tomorrow!" which she didn't respond to. today was monday and i didn't do anything (kind of wanted to though) - i figure i'll call her tomorrow because she probably has plans to celebrate with friends and stuff today and i didn't want to intrude or anything - it was a pretty big test and as a law student i understand the need to let loose and get wasted with friends from noon till midnight after big tests. i mean obviously she must like me otherwise she wouldn't have held my hand and kissed me and all that but it's only been three weeks, i'm still basically just a dude from the internet that she's dating at this point right? i figured calling tomorrow would be the smoothest thing to do. too soon? not soon enough? i really don't know what i'm doing with these things, i'm just trying to emulate my cool friends here.

[Bob]

and for the record it's not like i actually am particularly clingy or anything - it's just that the combination of my unemployment and my general hermit attitude towards life has basically made it so that this girl is basically my entire social life right now and i'm doing my best to not reveal that fact

[ms.peachy]

Definitely wait until Tuesday, maybe lunchtime, and text her saying "How'd the test go?" Short and simple.

Factoid: I am posting this now from Tuesday just after lunch, so this advice is coming to you from the future. Welcome to the world of tomorrow!

[Bob]

a text? i feel like a call would be more appropriate. i want a second opinion!

[lolkat]

do you have an animal? text her a picture of it's penis. animal penis is a good thing to talk about on 1st dates too as they are oddly shapen and sometimes colored bright pink unlike human penis.

[Bob]

do you have an animal? text her a picture of it's penis. animal penis is a good thing to talk about on 1st dates too as they are oddly shapen and sometimes colored bright pink unlike human penis.

i already did, catch up

[lolkat]

gahhh!!1! farttx yingway malsteam
(http://mcaaron.files.wordpress.com/2008/01/ketchup.jpg) yingway malsteam (http://www.yankeepotroast.org/img/ketchupgirl.jpg)

[ms.peachy]

a text? i feel like a call would be more appropriate. i want a second opinion!

Maybe. I personally do prefer a phone call, but I am old and I thought all you crazy kids just did the text thing now.

[Bob]

Maybe. I personally do prefer a phone call, but I am old and I thought all you crazy kids just did the text thing now.

yeah i'm not usually a comfortable phone talker but to be honest i kind of want to hear her voice speaking to my voice. i haven't actually spoken with her in real time since wednesday and it's kind of making me anxious. it's just been the voicemails as well as the two texts from me that she didn't respond to

i don't have much experience with this whole dating thing but i mean i guess the way it generally works is people date several people at a time and see who sticks? i mean we're not exclusive or anything (as far as i know) so i'd hate to think that while i'm sitting here thinking to myself "i need to pretend to be cool and not call her for several days at a time" she's off enjoying the company of other dudes, one or more of whom she might decide she likes better than me. that thought absolutely kills me. i know i shouldn't let it but it does. it really does. against my better judgment i checked her profile again recently (after the handholding and kissing date) and she's still updating it in a way that makes it look like she's still looking for more dudes to date. i don't like that. and it's not out of clinginess or stalkeriness with respect to her exactly, it's just, i dunno, a general sense of insecurity. i hate competition. i don't know what i have to offer that better dudes don't

i'm not seeing any other women, and it's not entirely not by choice. by that i mean i'm not attempting to. one at a time is hard enough for me. though i don't know if i could do more if i wanted to. which i don't. i don't know.

i wish i'd figured out how to date before i turned 25, i feel out of my element here.

[Bob]

god reading that back to myself i feel like i sound like a creepy stalker or something. i'm not, i swear! i'm as normal as i can possibly be when i'm out and about. it's just, you know, at the end of the day, i am my insecure and inexperienced self, and i can't keep these thoughts off my mind and where am i gonna talk about them if not here. don't judge me. you dicks

[HEIRESS]

Im glad I never went through that tip toe dating phase.

obviously it fucking sucks.

Im sorry Bob, hopefully you find out this week whether she's digging your shit or just fucking around. :confused:

[Adam]

I hate phone calls but I understand women like them so go with your instinct. I would say, if you call and there is no reply - don't leave an answer phone message and text a little later instead. I phone answer phones annoying.

You gotta also look at your relationship in the 3rd person. This isn't the type of date where you've met in a bar, had sex and fallen madly in love with each other where you can't live without the other there. That lust stage will come later probably. I don't think you can assume any exclusivity until one of you says so or you see her 3+ times a week.

Relax Bob.

[Echewta]

Its so funny that people just can't be themselves. Bob, do what you feel which means you will be you. Communication in relationships are always different from person to person. You might be text crazy with one person and then the next person hates texts.

I'm stoked to get a text or email from the person I'm dating, regardless of how many times or what the reason, especially if I really dig them.

Rirv, I'm waiting.

[hpdrifter]

I'm not into the game playing either but it sounds to me like you should let it simmer for a few days. When you start to feel desparate it's the worst time to act. In some ways I think the right move at this point might be to send a text some time today saying hope the test went well, let me know if you want to get together this week.

You people see why it's useful to date more than one person at a time, at least in the early days?

[Nuzzolese]

you can call her swarley vulkan if you'd like

There's only one swarley vulkan.

[Nuzzolese]

You seem to REALLY like her. I know that girls look for different things in a boyfriend, like money and looks and humor. But an important thing is that the guy really likes her in a healthy way (i.e. not irrationally obsessive) So you've got that going for you. I know you have said that you're shy and introverted so I was thinking you may not be good at expressing yourself. Do you think she knows you like her a lot?

[Guy Incognito]

bob, please dont take this the wrong way but if i thought you could handle it i would say do absolutely fuck all and wait for her to get back in touch but i realise its a risky move so probably do what hpd says - cheeky text and leave it for a while and keep chill.

[Freebasser]

You seem to REALLY like her. I know that girls look for different things in a boyfriend, like money and looks and humor. But an important thing is that the guy really likes her in a healthy way (i.e. not irrationally obsessive) So you've got that going for you.

I think what Nuzz is trying to say, is that you're poor, ugly and unfunny to boot :(

J/K ;)

I would call her if you want to call her, buddy - to hell with clinginess : )

EDIT - don't call her 'buddy' though - one way ticket to the 'friend-zone' :O

[Adam]

You should update your dating profile, see if she is checking you out to for moves and next time you meet, see if there is any hints in your changes during conversation.

Early mind games = means a fiery relationship (in bed to tho) (y)

[Adam]

don't call me buddy, friend...

[Freebasser]

Don't call me friend, guy!

[lolkat]

i can see a naked chick in her apt out the 4th floor window in the library. the slut

[Bob]

You seem to REALLY like her. I know that girls look for different things in a boyfriend, like money and looks and humor. But an important thing is that the guy really likes her in a healthy way (i.e. not irrationally obsessive) So you've got that going for you. I know you have said that you're shy and introverted so I was thinking you may not be good at expressing yourself. Do you think she knows you like her a lot?

i'm not sure. we've never talked about it or anything, our conversations are always casual and friendly and laughy. come to think of it, if it weren't for the kiss and the handholding and the fact that we met on a dating website i'd probably wonder if we were even dating. i suppose i should tell her that i like her but obviously i'm me and i'm nervous about the whole putting myself out there thing. like what if she says "oh....thanks! hey how about that weather?" or whatever. i dunno. i guess i just have to do it eventually

and i don't want to make it sound like i'm obsessed with this girl or anything. i do spend a lot of time thinking and posting about her but a lot of that is largely due to the fact that i don't have a ton else to do with my time right now, she's basically the most interesting thing in my life at the moment. and that does sound creepy and obsessive now that i've read it back to myself but i promise i'm not like that, i'm totally normal. i think it's just hard to post about these things on the internet without coming across as a creep

anyway i called her and we talked and made another date and everything's like i remember it being so i guess i'm being insecure for no reason. we're going to see a movie (her idea), probably on friday. super duper

[Freebasser]

i can see a naked chick in her apt out the 4th floor window in the library. the slut

Pictures or it didn't happen.

[Adam]

suggest a movie at hers, with wine.

[TAL]

B-52's karaoke night. To see if she can match your awesome Fred Schneider voice.

[Nuzzolese]

i'm not sure. we've never talked about it or anything, our conversations are always casual and friendly and laughy. come to think of it, if it weren't for the kiss and the handholding and the fact that we met on a dating website i'd probably wonder if we were even dating. i suppose i should tell her that i like her but obviously i'm me and i'm nervous about the whole putting myself out there thing. like what if she says "oh....thanks! hey how about that weather?" or whatever. i dunno. i guess i just have to do it eventually

and i don't want to make it sound like i'm obsessed with this girl or anything. i do spend a lot of time thinking and posting about her but a lot of that is largely due to the fact that i don't have a ton else to do with my time right now, she's basically the most interesting thing in my life at the moment. and that does sound creepy and obsessive now that i've read it back to myself but i promise i'm not like that, i'm totally normal. i think it's just hard to post about these things on the internet without coming across as a creep

anyway i called her and we talked and made another date and everything's like i remember it being so i guess i'm being insecure for no reason. we're going to see a movie (her idea), probably on friday. super duper

I'm sure you're not a creep, or obsessive. I think it would be a good idea to talk about something serious with her. The laughing good times are good to keep things fun and feeling safe. But sometimes sharing a more serious, personal conversation take things to a new level of intimacy and she starts seeing you as a deeper person with stronger feelings. I have no idea what kind of serious conversation topic would be the best. I don't know, everyone's got an opinion so ther's mine. How's the eye contact going with you two these days?

[lolkat]

Pictures or it didn't happen.

i was going to but then i scratched my privates and they smelt like i just broke apart a 2-hour old egg and cheese mcmuffin. not a really old one but a freshly cold one. these are all possible date convo topics, btw.

[Bob]

so we're seeing a movie friday night (2012, it looks cheesy and terrible and that's her reasoning for wanting to see it, and that makes me happy because i like cheesy terrible things too) and beforehand we're going to enhance the experience by getting drunk at a bar that she knows of. i looked it up on yelp and the reviews are overwhelmingly positive but i think that this anomalous one star review is the one that most makes me want to go there

*I am a judgemental prick. Keep that in mind while reading this.*

This is not a real bar. This is an MIT study lounge that serves beer. They were playing the show "Bones" on tv with the sound off instead of showing the Red Sox game. The place was full of MIT nerds playing poker. Thankfully, I was here for a bday party, so I didn't feel the need to make bar room aquaintances, because there was no way. People don't go to this place to socialize outside of the group of dorks they showed up with to play poker.

I kind of viewed this place as a training ground for nerds. They can go here as a first step to practice drinking and socializing in public until they're ready to go to real bars.

The beer was cheap and the bartender seemed cool. Other than that, I highly advise avoiding this place at all costs.

Beer and wine only. Cash only.

i love that she likes this place and i love that she thinks i will too (i haven't been yet but i think she's right). she feels like a keeper, i really do hope she doesn't decide she likes someone else better (and i'm not entirely convinced that she actually is dating other dudes but well you know)

[Bob]

oh yeah - she's also a big fan of rifftrax (+1) and i mentioned that i was excited about the fact that they riffed red dawn and she said that she's never seen the movie (-1) but we should totally watch it together sometime. i don't know what excites me more, the fact that that's basically an invitation to hang out alone together on a couch or that the idea of watching a terrible 80's movie and listening to three 50-something manchildren make fun of it sounds like a good date idea to her

she really does sound too good to be true. like she's an al qaeda spy or she needs a kidney or something, i don't know. if that's the case, the joke's on her because i don't know any national security secrets and my drinking habit has probably ruined my kidneys by now and if not soon so

[Guy Incognito]

its all sounding good.(y)

going to a bar then the movies could be a possible get drunk, lets skip the movie situation. 2012 doesnt sound like anything anybody would be desperate to see. hire red dawn instead maybe

too early to take her to the sandwich party?

[jabumbo]

oh, this girl needs to be at that sandwich party

[Adam]

GI said it: skip the movie, go back to hers. While at the bar - if time is passing and the movie is close, don't mention it.

Too early to say good night and too late to change activity is time to strike.

[Miho]

Will this thread continue when Bob is married with this chick?

[Adam]

Will this thread continue when Bob is married with this chick?

more than that, it'll be available in hardback.

[Miho]

I'll buy 5 copies.

[Adam]

I'll buy 5 copies.

better than that, you could have a piece of the pie

I think Ms Peachy claimed the story rights.

I'm using this statement to claim the publishing in hardback, softback and depending on sales a Large 'Coffee Table Book' with colour photographs.

There is still the movie, the perfume, sunglasses rights up for grabs. But maybe they are riskier markets?

[Ty Webb]

ROCK LOBSTER

[Miho]

I'll take The Bob Condom rights.

[Adam]

I'll take The Bob Condom rights.

With the '4th date special edition'? Yeah, I'm liking it (y)

[Bob]

oh, this girl needs to be at that sandwich party

i thought about that but there's a few things

1) it's the day after our next date, i feel like that would be too soon
2) there are going to be tons of people there, half of whom are friends of mine, and none of whom she knows, so it will be kind of awkward for me to divide my time between her and my friends and keep her from feeling out of place
3) i plan to get massively drunk and she hasn't seen me like that yet. i'm told i'm a very entertaining drunk so she probably wouldn't mind but still, it doesn't seem like the right venue

[Guy Incognito]

fair do's but what you gonna say if she asks you what your doing the next day or if you wanted to do something with her that night seeing as you stayed over. ha!.

[Bob]

well i'm going to tell her what's up and let her decide for herself

[Guy Incognito]

well i'm going to tell her what's up and let her decide for herself

(y)

[Adam]

she'll either say yes because she feel she has to go but doesn't really want to
or
she'll say no because you asked in a way that sounded like you don't want her there but felt she should be asked anyway, when she would of really loved to go in which she'll text several times and expect replies and when you don't, she assumes you're fucking some1 else so she goes off and fucks some douche.

...

takes medication.

Good luck with asking Bob (y)

[Guy Incognito]

chill out adam bloody hell

bob, just drop it in casually chief like its not a big deal and its a bit short notice so she might have summat else planned anyway.

[Bob]

chill out adam bloody hell

bob, just drop it in casually chief like its not a big deal and its a bit short notice so she might have summat else planned anyway.

yeah i didn't really think it was a big deal. i mean it's literally the next day after the date in question, i doubt she'll want to do something again so soon anyway

[hpdrifter]

This thread is 19 pages long!

Bob, when you made it did you have any idea?

[Miho]

A Bob thread is always instant classic.

[Guy Incognito]

yeah i didn't really think it was a big deal. i mean it's literally the next day after the date in question, i doubt she'll want to do something again so soon anyway

itll prolly come up in convo tomorrow anyway. keep it low key, i do understand what adam was saying but just say its no biggie either way.

but stop doubting things bob, if she's into you she'll prolly be up for it, she would probably be nervous about meeting your friends but thats going to be the case however she meets them. If they dont know shes coming and theres lots of people probably wouldnt be as nervewracking for her than maybe being introduced at a smaller gathering.

[Adam]

I was only teasing.

Just trying to make Bob over think it.

Sorry Bob :(

[Freebasser]

Bob, when you made it did you have any idea?

For a minute I thought you meant he'd 'made it'... as in made it with his woman, and I had to go back through the thread and look for some sort of announcement.

Then I thought, well... he would probably have a fair idea whether or not he'd done the deed - unless he was blind stinking drunk of course.

[rirv]

Even when you're blind drunk you usually have a good idea of whether you "made it" or not.

[Bob]

This thread is 19 pages long!

Bob, when you made it did you have any idea?

i thought there was maybe a 50-50 chance

[rirv]

One page for every centimetre.

[Guy Incognito]

i thought there was maybe a 50-50 chance

bob, you thought there was a 50-50 chance she'd show up on the first date

anyway good luck tonight, if its going well at the bar then keep chill about the movie unless she mentions it loads. hope it goes well, stay safe;):D

[Dorothy Wood]

I really don't understand why everyone's so against going to the movies!

I love going on movie dates, you get to share popcorns, you sit near each other and make fun of the previews...then you watch the movie and you can tell if the other person is an inconsiderate jerk or not by their behavior. then if all goes well, you hang out afterward and talk about the movie which leads to more conversation about different things. it's great!

[paul jones]

I really don't understand why everyone's so against going to the movies!

I love going on movie dates, you get to share popcorns, you sit near each other and make fun of the previews...then you watch the movie and you can tell if the other person is an inconsiderate jerk or not by their behavior. then if all goes well, you hang out afterward and talk about the movie which leads to more conversation about different things. it's great!

I've had 3 cinema dates as in 'first date'

The Chase with a barmaid = 1st and final date
Striptease with a barmaid = she turned out to be a junkie
Human Traffic with a barmaid = 1st and final date

I don't think barmaids and movies go well with me(y)

[Adam]

Its not movies are a bad idea, its just that skipping the movies and going back to hers is a better idea.

What kinda junkie was your Striptease date Paul?

[Bob]

I really don't understand why everyone's so against going to the movies!

I love going on movie dates, you get to share popcorns, you sit near each other and make fun of the previews...then you watch the movie and you can tell if the other person is an inconsiderate jerk or not by their behavior. then if all goes well, you hang out afterward and talk about the movie which leads to more conversation about different things. it's great!

plus i'll get to do that thing where i pretend to yawn and put my arm around her

[Guy Incognito]

I really don't understand why everyone's so against going to the movies!

I love going on movie dates, you get to share popcorns, you sit near each other and make fun of the previews...then you watch the movie and you can tell if the other person is an inconsiderate jerk or not by their behavior. then if all goes well, you hang out afterward and talk about the movie which leads to more conversation about different things. it's great!

after a few dates is fine, and i'm not completely against the idea in this situation. i just thought drinks before could lead somewhere else, if the drink is flowing a bit i think its understandable for people not to want to sit in a movie theater for 2 hours, all i suggested that they didnt have to be fixed on the movie if they were having a good time at the bar

[Lex Diamonds]

I haven't read any of this thread, but you should take her somewhere with Bailey's Irish Cream. Bailey's makes females want cock, I'm not 100% sure on the science but I think it's something to do with the combination of alcohol and cream. (y)



EDIT: She has to drink the Bailey's, not just be near it. Obvious to some I know but this is Bob we're dealing with here.



nb: Bob you are a lovely guy if I was a female and I had Bailey's I would be all over you.

[Adam]

I remember the Irish Car Bomb that had baileys in it. Until the name was deemed racist.

[Lex Diamonds]

If you remember it then you weren't there. Like Omagh.

[Adam]

whoops, it was a drink.

Think, 2 shots baileys and 2 shots jamesons with half of pint of guinness - came to a pint so it'll of been more of those things. Remember it was pretty strong, But the name of the drink seemed racist so they stopped it. But popular in the 90s for a little bit.

[Bob]

whoops, it was a drink.

Think, 2 shots baileys and 2 shots jamesons with half of pint of guinness - came to a pint so it'll of been more of those things. Remember it was pretty strong, But the name of the drink seemed racist so they stopped it. But popular in the 90s for a little bit.

they're still popular in america, mostly with the college crowd. it's a good frat boy drink because you have to chug it and frat boys love chugging because drinking should be painful otherwise you're not a man

there's another car bomb type of drink, which is just a big shot glass half full of bailey's and half full of jameson's (no guinness). it tastes like hot chocolate, it's pretty good. you have to drink it fast though otherwise it curdles.

also why do men in this thread keep telling me that if they were women they'd be all over me. there are multiple reasons why that does not help me

[Adam]

if I was a man I'd be all over you

[Lex Diamonds]

It's cute how Adam thought he was divulging an age-old secret there. Like he was the one keeper of the true location of the Holy Grail or some shit. Everyone knows what an Irish Car Bomb is, dude.

Oh and Bob if you were a girl I'd totally shag you. Does that help?

[Freebasser]

If I was Bob, I'd totally shit all over my own bollocks.

[Lex Diamonds]

If I was Bob, I'd fellate as many dogs as I could in one day, starting from when I woke up.


ps
vids 4 proof plz

[Freebasser]

If I was Bob, I'd question whether or not I should be using the phrase 'If I were Bob...' instead because 'If I was Bob' sounds a bit shitty bollocks, but then again 'If I were Bob...' sounds a little olde Englishey...e.

Oh shit, I have shit on my bollocks.

[Lex Diamonds]

Sometimes one can only gream...

[Adam]

It's cute how Adam thought he was divulging an age-old secret there. Like he was the one keeper of the true location of the Holy Grail or some shit. Everyone knows what an Irish Car Bomb is, dude.

What?

I forgot what it is even, and Bob half explained but no1 has full listed the correct measurements and ingredients yet. Is one of us dyslexic and we totally read different things? I'm constantly confused about what Padster says.

[Freebasser]

Confused and aroused.

[Adam]

Confused and aroused.

goes without saying (y)

We all want to sample from a pond that isn't our water sometimes.

[Freebasser]

Irish Car Bomb includes pond water. Noted.

Good thing I found out now cos I'm going to an exclusive club later to mix drinks and I have to get it just right.

[Guy Incognito]

Oh shit, I have shit on my bollocks.

or:

oh bollocks, i have shat on my bollocks

[Myu-to]

Twenty fucking pages?

Fuck.

Bob, can you give me a recap? I'm ADHD so small words, and maybe some pictures.

MKTHANKS.

See my butt thing thread for a wonderful musical choice to play whilst going to the movie.

Also, Led Zepplin.

[Bob]

so we ended up staying at that bar later than we planned and we never ended up going to the movie. we shared two pitchers and we were in the middle of the second one (the girl can drink, nearly as fast and hard as me, i like that, i like that a lot) when we realized we'd have to leave immediately if we wanted to make it to the movie and we both decided that we'd rather just finish the pitcher so it didn't happen. instead, we walked around the city holding hands and stopped for pizza and then ice cream and then back to the subway, where we kissed goodbye, but longer and better this time. again, i don't want to get too personal or anything but suffice it to say i'd really like to get her alone somewhere and make out with her for hours and hours sometime soon. perhaps red dawn is the key. i don't know.

anyway yeah. going well.

[HEIRESS]

yays!

[Kid Presentable]

Drinking with women is gold. Although being with drunkenly obliterated women can be tiresome.

[Adam]

worst case scenario now is that you have a new drinking partner (y)

[Bob]

Drinking with women is gold. Although being with drunkenly obliterated women can be tiresome.

yeah i'm quite impressed with her drinking abilities. we shared two pitchers of sam adams over a period of maybe two to two and a half hours. i drank a little more than her but she still had quite a bit. i was well buzzed but hardly wasted and she was still cool so yeah, she's a keeper as far as that goes

the more i learn about her the more i like her. and it isn't just the drinking. she's just this big sweet dork who is somehow also hot and on top of that attracted to big sweet dorks such as myself. like, that bar was every bit as nerdy as that yelp review made it out to be (possibly more so; by 9:30 there was only one other table with people left in the place) but i love that she likes to go there and that she knew i'd like it too (i did). i do hope she stays attracted to me because i really don't know what it is that i'm doing that's making her like me. she reliably laughs at the things i say and i don't know what it is exactly about the things i say that makes her laugh so much but fuck it, i like watching her do it, her smile, her eyes, it's beautiful, i hope she never stops.

i really do hope she's as into me as i think she is, otherwise i'll feel like such a dick for gushing about her like this. we did hang out with some friends of hers at the bar and she did introduce me as "my friend, bob" but i mean she is a bit of a dork and it's only been four dates, what word can you use, really? and the way we kissed at the end there isn't really a way i'd ever say goodbye to any platonic friends of mine so you know, i'm hopeful basically

[Adam]

I doubt there is a single soul on this board that isn't happy for you Bob (y)

I would suggest trying a date round at hers. Go on the offensive while a good night is still fresh her mind. Suggest doing something a little less public fairly soon.

[Kid Presentable]

yeah i'm quite impressed with her drinking abilities. we shared two pitchers of sam adams over a period of maybe two to two and a half hours. i drank a little more than her but she still had quite a bit. i was well buzzed but hardly wasted and she was still cool so yeah, she's a keeper as far as that goes

the more i learn about her the more i like her. and it isn't just the drinking. she's just this big sweet dork who is somehow also hot and on top of that attracted to big sweet dorks such as myself. like, that bar was every bit as nerdy as that yelp review made it out to be (possibly more so; by 9:30 there was only one other table with people left in the place) but i love that she likes to go there and that she knew i'd like it too (i did). i do hope she stays attracted to me because i really don't know what it is that i'm doing that's making her like me. she reliably laughs at the things i say and i don't know what it is exactly about the things i say that makes her laugh so much but fuck it, i like watching her do it, her smile, her eyes, it's beautiful, i hope she never stops.

i really do hope she's as into me as i think she is, otherwise i'll feel like such a dick for gushing about her like this. we did hang out with some friends of hers at the bar and she did introduce me as "my friend, bob" but i mean she is a bit of a dork and it's only been four dates, what word can you use, really? and the way we kissed at the end there isn't really a way i'd ever say goodbye to any platonic friends of mine so you know, i'm hopeful basically

Dude I have gushed over women in the past and it hasn't worked out, and I guess I think life is too short not to. Why not try for happiness? Sounds like she likes you at least enough to kiss you, and at whatever stage it ends (if it ends) you can chalk it up to experience and add it to your life story. Nothing wrong with that. On and on we go.

My wife and I got together at the races (Horse), completely fucking liquored out of our skulls, and the first 6 months of our relationship was filthy drunken activities. Lucky that she wasn't one of those annoying drunken bints, and sounds like you may have dodged that bullet too. You, like myself, enjoy an ale. There is nothing finer than doing that in the company of a good woman. When they get a few drinks in them and turn to trollops, it's best to forget about anything meaningful and walk the other way.

You need to get together and watch Arrested Development DVDs with her, and hope that the first time you touch her tit you hear Gob sing "It ain't easy being whiiiiiiiite".

[NicRN77]

I think the next date should be dinner and a movie at your place. Then it is a guarantee at least an intense makeout session will happen. Even if you can't cook, make some spaghetti or something.

So happy for you Bob!

[Guy Incognito]

sounds like you have found someone who could make you happy(y)but just try and keep your feet on the ground. but you have made a very good job of that so far. I dont think i could go thru the whole dating thing now, i'd be a mess, so more power to yer elbow son.

I do think you need an alone date.

[Dorothy Wood]

bob, she's laughing because you're funny, and when you're not so funny, she's laughing because she likes you. (y)

you're doing everything right, keep up the good work!

[Lex Diamonds]

I may be badass as fuck but damn, even I have to admit this shit is sweet. Don't wanna jinx it but I'm genuinely 100% happy for you Bob, you deserve to find someone by now and this girl sounds perfect for you. Your description of those dates reads like the mushy part of a romcom (that's a good thing). I hope this shit works out for you, big man. (y)

[lolkat]

i hope that on the day she says she loves you you're crippled by a bus and she leaves

[Guy Incognito]

for christs sake out of order that. you should really do one for that.

[Helvete]

Okay what the fuck was that about?

[Guy Incognito]

Okay what the fuck was that about?

fuck knows, it was pretty bad, no doubt lots will see that and have a word, i have asked the admin to have a word, not sure what good it'll do.

[Bob]

if lolkat actually meant anything by that post then i think it would be the first time that any of lolkat's posts have ever had any meaning so i'm either not troubled by it or i'm flattered, case closed move along

[rirv]

again, i don't want to get too personal or anything but suffice it to say i'd really like to get her alone somewhere and make out with her for hours and hours sometime soon.

Once you've done that, you'll discover the other pleasures a woman can offer ;)

Cleaning, washing and cooking!:cool:

[Freebasser]

And ironing; don't forget ironing!

[Adam]

I clicked the link to see what lolkat wrote after people started talking about ot (have him/her/alias on ignore).

I know replying like this is an oxymoron or summat but ignore the dude and he/she/alias will go away.

[Adam]

people still iron in the 21st century?

my mind is blown

[yeahwho]

lolkats comment reminded me of that movie ghost town (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ghost_Town_(film)).

[Helvete]

people still iron in the 21st century?

my mind is blown

I'm doing it right now! Damn Army.

[yeahwho]

I think it is now a good time to buy this girl a small gift, say $50 max. winter is coming and I bet she would love something to stay warm with.

Nice Gloves

Warm Scarf

Fuzzy Blanket

Slippers

Candles

Just some sort of gesture of how nice it is to be with her.

[Guy Incognito]

if lolkat actually meant anything by that post then i think it would be the first time that any of lolkat's posts have ever had any meaning so i'm either not troubled by it or i'm flattered, case closed move along

ok fair do's you are much easier going than me , i just dont like seeing stuff like that.

I think it is now a good time to buy this girl a small gift, say $50 max. winter is coming and I bet she would love something to stay warm with.

Nice Gloves

Warm Scarf

Fuzzy Blanket

Slippers

Candles

Just some sort of gesture of how nice it is to be with her.

woah, steady on, not sure about that. wait til chrimbo. maybe treat her to something whilst your with her, like if you are just out and about one day , a bit more spontaneous

[yeahwho]

It's gift time, pre-meditated gift time.

Then spontaneous sex time.

[Guy Incognito]

am still not convinced, but if bob 's up for it then fine, i would suggest a little detective work first, try and eek out some info of something she wants or likes but dont go nuts with it, its gotta be played down imo.

[yeahwho]

Generosity is appealing, it adds a depth to the dating game. I've never experienced a bad vibe from gift giving. Don't make it into some sort of self aggrandizement issue.... just casually give a gift.

It's cool.

If it's not genuine, you do not feel like giving a gift then fuck it, don't give a gift. People sense that vibe. I gift give quite regularly.

[yeahwho]

Perhaps a small gesture of appreciation such as unabashed compliments.

[yeahwho]

chrissakes bob, pay the woman a compliment you cheap bastard

[Bob]

a new question: how long should i wait for her to return a call before i call again? i called her last night around 7:30 and it's currently about 3:15 the next day and i haven't heard back. i do want to talk to her but i don't want to come across as pushy or needy or anything, so how long do i sit here waiting for my phone to ring before i try again?

[jabumbo]

I think it is now a good time to buy this girl a small gift, say $50 max. winter is coming and I bet she would love something to stay warm with.


for some reason, this sort of thing always irked me. "this is our 7th date, and since 7 is my lucky number i got you this bracelet."

maybe its just because i am not a big fan of such store bought gists and the like, but i don't think i will ever do something like that unless i feel that the gift itself has some personal meaning. some flowers maybe, or a nice relaxing massage session is something that i can get behind.

[Adam]

I'm unsure on the gift to. Something while you're out and about as a treat yeah, but something that is for keeps - you don't know her taste that well yet.



As for calling her back. (* = skip to the end) My situation is that I've contact a girl three times in the last week with no reply - once each on email, phone and text (yeah, I get the hint now). I sent the text today. But I was unsure if to send that text as I thought I might be getting too clingy. The email was a reply but the phone call and text was a follow up. So it averages waiting 2 days before trying to contact again, I'd say that is fair but like I say, I feel I'm close to clingy doing that. I doubt I'll send anything again until I hear something new though now.

*Try tomorrow I say.

[Echewta]

I dislike the clingy rule. Yes, unless its mutual, its not advisable to contact someone multiple times during the day. But if you aren't getting a reply back in two days or more, I don't think its wrong to follow up, especially if its about making plans.

I wish more people would be up front, espcially with all of the forms of communication to avoid doing it in person, when they are no longer interested. The not calling back leaving the other person hanging and in the dark is uncalled for. Closure.

[yeahwho]

Leave a message that is sort of long and autobiographical. Something along the lines of "I was born on a wet and windy Thursday dawn" then in about a half an hour later progress to "That was the day I said, Goodbye Diapers".

Then leave it at that cliffhanger. Trust me, she'll be calling back pronto like. Then say I really don't want to get into that whole walking thing over the phone, lets meet down at the bar.

[Bob]

I wish more people would be up front, espcially with all of the forms of communication to avoid doing it in person, when they are no longer interested. The not calling back leaving the other person hanging and in the dark is uncalled for. Closure.

yeah, really. i mean i don't think that's what's happening here, it's certainly a surprise to me if it is. everything seemed to be going quite well, nothing at all would seem to indicate that she doesn't like me anymore. still, i can't quite get the thought out of my head. maybe she was dating other people. maybe she decided she liked one of them more. hopefully not, that would be pretty shitty

ring, you stupid phone

[yeahwho]

ring, you stupid phone

You're in the game now bob, this is the price one pays for getting involved. The good thing about all of this is you'll still be great no matter what happens.

Let go and good things will happen. When that phone rings try not to answer it within the first 1/64 of the first ring. Let that ring go for at least 1 full cycle (http://www.a1freesoundeffects.com/popular12008/phonering.mp3). Practice saying Hello real s-l-o-w.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, have fun with whatever happens next, there are a lot of fish in the sea and you may have found your match or you may just of had a nibble. Stay confident and you will one day fine your beautiful reward.

[Echewta]

Bob,

A few days without a phone call is ok. Sucks but thats the way it is in the beginning. And she could be dating other people and who is to stop you? Until you ahve that talk, its not official.
She could be playing the game to making you sweat it out. (y)

[Bob]

well that sucks

[Echewta]

No man, I'm not trying to harsh your buzz. But being prepared for whatever comes down the road is best. :)

[hpdrifter]

I know you're excited about things, buddy, but you must chill. You're up and down, sure then insecure, excited then nervous. It's natural but you gotta recognize it for what it is. Don't act when you're all over the place like this.

[Bob]

yeah i know. i don't act on my insecurities when i get down, i come on here to get it all out of my system, and i'm happy to have you guys to talk sense into me when i do, so thanks for that

[Documad]

Jeez, don't make a big deal about the phone. People have things to do. I wait to return calls when I'm someplace quiet and I'm not around people. Sometimes that means that it takes a couple of days to call back. Shit, I feel bad because I owe someone a phone call right now.

[NicRN77]

Ya, I know its hard waiting for her to call you back...but don't analyze things so much. Just let it be. Things will be ok.

As for a gift...I don't see why this is relevant right now. Maybe if you want to buy her some flowers or something that would be cool. But a gift...its a bit too soon. I've always liked it when a guy bought me flowers!

[Bob]

i think one of the reasons i'm so neurotic is that i have nothing to do but stare at the phone all day and nothing to think about but why she isn't calling me on it. i need a job and/or a hobby. maybe i'll put the lawyer dream on hold for a while and go be a dishwasher or something somewhere for a while. you can't handle a phone when you're washing dishes

[NicRN77]

i think one of the reasons i'm so neurotic is that i have nothing to do but stare at the phone all day and nothing to think about but why she isn't calling me on it. i need a job and/or a hobby. maybe i'll put the lawyer dream on hold for a while and go be a dishwasher or something somewhere for a while. you can't handle a phone when you're washing dishes

I totally understand. I went on a couple dates with this guy last week...and I haven't heard from him since Friday. I'm sure he's super busy...but I only work 3 nights a week so I have plenty of time to sit and think about things. Luckily tomorrow I'm volunteering for most of the afternoon so won't sit at home wondering what he's up to. I'm sure he's busy...but I wanna know when date #3 will be.

[Bob]

I totally understand. I went on a couple dates with this guy last week...and I haven't heard from him since Friday. I'm sure he's super busy...but I only work 3 nights a week so I have plenty of time to sit and think about things. Luckily tomorrow I'm volunteering for most of the afternoon so won't sit at home wondering what he's up to. I'm sure he's busy...but I wanna know when date #3 will be.

if he's anything like me (disclaimer: most men aren't) he probably wouldn't mind if you called him. i always seem to be the one to initiate contact with this girl and i suppose that's my fault because i do tend to end our dates with "i'll call you" but still, i wouldn't mind a call or text now and then

i also am generally uncomfortable with making phone calls so that's probably part of it too. i also hate leaving messages on an answering machine. i just can't get used to it. it's just me speaking into a void and the void is recording everything i say and i only have one shot to say it and then later, somebody is going to listen to the thing that the void has recorded and ugh, i get all jumbled up. i leave the worst voicemails. i'm just kind of like "hi, i uh, called to say hello and uh, i wondering was if you were busy and if not uh we should go together sometime uhhh call me back talk to you soon bye"

maybe she thought my voicemail was weird

[Echewta]

Chances are its nothing.

When I find myself wound up about a woman, I hit the stairs or track. Go sweat it out Bob with headphones.

[hpdrifter]

Best. advice. ever.

[Bob]

Chances are its nothing.

When I find myself wound up about a woman, I hit the stairs or track. Go sweat it out Bob with headphones.

i already run :( 7 miles yesterday, 6.5 today (2 or 3 of them were uphill, give me a break). i can't keep that up all day

i've been busying myself with my netflix queue as best i can but for some reason the thing i've decided to watch now is californication which, in many ways, isn't really helping but it's also very good so i don't want to stop

i'm complicated

[Documad]

Any luck at all on the job front? It must be tough. I have a friend who says things are loosening up here, but she hasn't gotten a job offer yet.

Have you thought about volunteering at some public law office? Something where you don't need malpractice insurance.

[Bob]

Any luck at all on the job front? It must be tough. I have a friend who says things are loosening up here, but she hasn't gotten a job offer yet.

Have you thought about volunteering at some public law office? Something where you don't need malpractice insurance.

hey now, let's keep this thread focused on one insecure topic at a time

[checkyourprez]

Best. advice. ever.

apparently not.

[sjp]

so what are we doing on the next date should be a question regardless

[Bob]

also, i appreciate all the advice, but apart from adam, nobody really answered my question - surely, after some amount of time of waiting for her to return my call but her not doing that, it must be socially acceptable for me to call again and see what's up? how long is that time?

[Myu-to]

Sorry, when was the last date, and previous call? And how did you end the date? As far as future contact, that is.

[sjp]

also, i appreciate all the advice, but apart from adam, nobody really answered my question - surely, after some amount of time of waiting for her to return my call but her not doing that, it must be socially acceptable for me to call again and see what's up? how long is that time?

every 3 months

[Bob]

Sorry, when was the last date, and previous call? And how did you end the date? As far as future contact, that is.

last date was friday. we went to a bar and i met some friends of hers and then we walked around the area kind of aimlessly and chatting while holding hands and stopped somewhere for pizza, then stopped again somewhere for ice cream, then we walked back to the subway station and we kissed goodbye (quite pleasantly). i said i'd call her, then i did, on monday night (i knew she was camping and hiking over the weekend so i figured i'd get back to her when she was well rested) and left a message

i mean it's only tuesday (well wednesday now, technically) and i realize that's too soon but i am me, so i'm just wondering, at what point do i have to stop and think "maybe she isn't going to return that call"?

[Myu-to]

I would call tomorrow after work, and be casual. How was the camping trip? See anything awesome? That kind of thing. If she knew you had called, but was busy, she should appreciate the space. If she missed your call, it's not too late, and you'll still seem interested. If she is playing a game, it will appear not to have phased you. If you get her voicemail, leave a message about going out this weekend like you normally would, you'll appear cool and unflappable.

[NicRN77]

I'm not going to call my boy....I don't want to seem to desperate. Email maybe.

Bob, if you called Monday and she doesn't return your phone call...give her until today or tomorrow. Maybe call her tomorrow (Thursday) and try to set up something for the weekend. I think that would be fine.

She's probably just busy and stuff. Don't read into it.

[Adam]

i appreciate all the advice, but apart from adam

:mad:

[Guy Incognito]

:mad:

unless you are being hilariously ironic, you need to read that post again luv

[Bob]

:mad:

now now, i didn't mean it like that. all i said was that you were the only one to answer my original question. i was thanking you!

[DandyFop]

I'd say wait until tomorrow to call. And just be very casual about it "Hey how are you. Want to hang out this weekend?". Don't get caught up on the fact that she didn't call you back, there's a million reasons why this could be happening. I've freaked out over this plenty of times and it turned out to be nothing.

See how she acts when you call her and you'll probably be able to tell what's up.

[skinnybutphat]

Leave her a message like this. (http://www.holytaco.com/2008/06/27/the-douchiest-phone-message-in-history/)

[NicRN77]

Leave her a message like this. (http://www.holytaco.com/2008/06/27/the-douchiest-phone-message-in-history/)


HAHAHAHA...a friend had sent me this link a few months back.

[Adam]

now now, i didn't mean it like that. all i said was that you were the only one to answer my original question. i was thanking you!

Yeah, I knew you was thanking me. I didn't read it wrong but I do like play on words sometimes. I chuckle to myself when something reads totally wrong but is right. Don't worry, I won't be unfriending you.

[Adam]

Leave her a message like this. (http://www.holytaco.com/2008/06/27/the-douchiest-phone-message-in-history/)

oh dear, listening to it now. I'm cringing as I type.

[Echewta]

Wow, this thread has reached the number of the Beast already ^

[Bob]

yeah i'm gonna bite my tongue and call tomorrow. it does still seem kind of weird to me for someone to wait so long to return a call, but...whatever, i guess it's normal, i'll deal

[Bob]

thursday now, still no call :/

i called and left a very neutral "guess you're busy, but let's hang out saturday?" kind of thing. now i get to sit by my phone and wait some more. do i wait another 3 days before i try again or at this point can i be forgiven for getting a little impatient?

maybe she didn't get the message on monday. that's probably what happened, phones delete messages all the time i'm sure

grr

[NicRN77]

thursday now, still no call :/

i called and left a very neutral "guess you're busy, but let's hang out saturday?" kind of thing. now i get to sit by my phone and wait some more. do i wait another 3 days before i try again or at this point can i be forgiven for getting a little impatient?

maybe she didn't get the message on monday. that's probably what happened, phones delete messages all the time i'm sure

grr

this is a tough situation. If the weekend comes and goes and you hear nothing I would give her another call.

[Myu-to]

Good call. Give her some space, let her know that you are really interested, and that you care, but you're not desperate.

No.

Say it like you mean it.

"I am not desperate."

Good.

[Adam]

Wow, this thread has reached the number of the Beast already ^

616 is the oldest recorded number of the beast. Pointless trivia there for ya. But I am kinda happy I got the 666 tho.

[Lex Diamonds]

Leave her a message like this. (http://www.holytaco.com/2008/06/27/the-douchiest-phone-message-in-history/)
Classic shit, I remember a good thread about that back in the day.

In other news, this (http://www.holytaco.com/thats-what-you-call-badonkadonk) was linked to that page. I mean DAMN. I need to go lie down.

[Bob]

she just wants to be friends. that sucks. at least i know now.

[Freebasser]

Ah, Bob. I'm sorry, mate *manhug* :(

Me and my mate are going to the pub tonight. We will raise a glass to you. My mate will probably say "Who's Bob?" but I will just tell him to shut up and drink.

Keep yer chin up - plenty more fish in the sea 'n' all that (y)

[Bob]

you know where i think i went wrong? i didn't tell anyone because i realized it was stupid right after i did it but i think what i did wrong is i changed my okcupid status to "seeing someone" (i think i was drunk at the time), i think that weirded her out. she says "you're a great guy and i had fun hanging out but i'm not sure if i'm ready for a relationship right now"

that was stupid of me, i could have tricked her into one, i tipped my hand too soon

well i've learned something today

[Planetary]

unlucky robert

[Freebasser]

The best thing to do now (also the hardest thing) is to cut all contact. Pining after her will only make her more distant. If you keep yourself distant, the chances are you'll either find someone better (they do exist, trust me) or that this girl will come back to you because she misses you. Either way, you win (y)

[Bob]

The best thing to do now (also the hardest thing) is to cut all contact. Pining after her will only make her more distant. If you keep yourself distant, the chances are you'll either find someone better (they do exist, trust me) or that this girl will come back to you because she misses you. Either way, you win (y)

yeah i'm not really tempted to contact her honestly. she isn't interested in a relationship. i'm not interested in just being friends (too weird for me at this point). no point in talking to her really

[hpdrifter]

dude.

:(

[Freebasser]

yeah i'm not really tempted to contact her honestly. she isn't interested in a relationship. i'm not interested in just being friends (too weird for me at this point). no point in talking to her really

That's the spirit! She probably had some really weird secret anyway that would've disgusted you; like a third nipple, or square feet or a dozen corpses concealed in the dry walls of her home (y)

[Bob]

That's the spirit! She probably had some really weird secret anyway that would've disgusted you; like a third nipple, or square feet or a dozen corpses concealed in the dry walls of her home (y)

she did tell me that she didn't find 30 rock funny. it probably never would have worked out

[hpdrifter]

Wha? Last night's had me LOLing all over the place.

[Bob]

Wha? Last night's had me LOLing all over the place.

yeah i just finished watching it on hulu. i was loving it until i paused mid-way to read the e-mail she sent me, then i feel like the second half kind of dropped off

[b i o n i c]

you know where i think i went wrong? i didn't tell anyone because i realized it was stupid right after i did it but i think what i did wrong is i changed my okcupid status to "seeing someone" (i think i was drunk at the time), i think that weirded her out. she says "you're a great guy and i had fun hanging out but i'm not sure if i'm ready for a relationship right now"

that was stupid of me, i could have tricked her into one, i tipped my hand too soon

well i've learned something today


you shoulda said "seeing someone" didnt mean her

edit: and that "seeing someone" was your way of weeding out jealous types

[Guy Incognito]

oh no, i am gutted for you, i think the profile thing was a mistake but thats the only way you learn these things i'm afraid.
like freebasser said just chalk it down to experience and have no contact, thats not always easy but just look at all the things you didnt think were going to happen throught this whole saga and you surprised yourself a lot so i think you just have to take all the positives out of it all.

[Praying Mantis]

Sorry Bob. So she told you this via email?

[Bob]

Sorry Bob. So she told you this via email?

well, over okcupid actually. i just said e-mail because it doesn't sound as lame as "okcupid message". but now i've just said it anyway so...hmm. i never actually got her e-mail address. or her last name for that matter. it never really came up. but apart from that everything really did go quite well on these dates so...i dunno whatever. doesn't matter i guess

[Guy Incognito]

just get back on the horse - just think of all the questions you dont have to ask us lot when you go next on a date

[b i o n i c]

time to make the donuts, bob.. its friday and there's still time to make a date for saturday.. get crackin!

edit: been travelin, sorry my time perception is broken

[hpdrifter]

yeah i just finished watching it on hulu. i was loving it until i paused mid-way to read the e-mail she sent me, then i feel like the second half kind of dropped off

That is truly a bummer because the second half was gold.

I feel for you, man. I can't believe how truly disappointed I am about it on your behalf.

[Guy Incognito]

time to make the donuts, bob.. its thursday and there's still time to make a date for the weekend.. get crackin!

erm.. its friday

make the donuts?

[b i o n i c]

erm.. its friday

make the donuts?

ill cut you

[Guy Incognito]

ill cut you

steady on princess

[b i o n i c]

you made fred the baker cry, nice job(y)

i wanna know how i can order this thread on paperback

[Bob]

i wanna know how i can order this thread on paperback

i'd save your money, i hear the ending is a real downer

[Freebasser]

Did the butler do it?

[Bob]

the plot involves no doing it

[Freebasser]

:(

[Guy Incognito]

you made fred the baker cry, nice job(y)



:confused:

[hpdrifter]

the plot involves no doing it

rewrite the plot then, the story ain't over yet.

Go out tonight (we know you have friends, don't pretend you don't) and pick up a girl. What have you got to lose?

[Bob]

i'm trying to arrange to do something with friends tonight but i don't really want to pick up a girl at the moment. i don't even know how to do that

[b i o n i c]

don't do it with your back, always work with the knees

[Bob]

don't do it with your back, always work with the knees

there's so much i have to learn about women

[hpdrifter]

i don't really want to pick up a girl at the moment.

This is the best mindset for picking up a girl but do what you gotta do, buddy.

[b i o n i c]

just remember that when picking up women and boxes over 50lbs

[NicRN77]

:(

I'm sorry to hear this Bob. Everything happens for a reason though...so there are better things on the horizon!

[Nicodemus]

frempah you did a

[Helvete]

Sorry to hear that, Bob. All is not lost though!

When I broke up with the last girl I was seeing, sure it sucked and I was like "oh no, the world has ended, what am I ever going to do?!", but when I 'got back on the horse' as they say, things totally changed for me. I am a lot more confident with girls now, and it bloody works! By works, I mean I actually have success with girls and they seem to like me now. Wtf happened I don't know, but shit's good for me now, and I've got some lying bitch to thank for it!

[Bob]

yeah i imagine a little rejection will be good for me in the long run. i'm looking forward to the part where i'm better off for it. right now though i'm still kind stunned by the whole thing. things seemed to be going so well, you know? they really did. i mean, i may be inexperienced, i may have missed a sign but the last time i was with her i really truly did not get any hint that she wanted to back off. then suddenly she disappears for a week and comes back and says "let's just be friends, i'm not sure i'm ready for a relationship". if you weren't ready for a relationship and you just wanted to be friends why'd you hold my hand and kiss me so much? you don't do that with friends. annoying.

i mean i'll get over it but for now it's still a fresh wound, i think i'm entitled to mope on the internet a little. the stupid sun went down and now i'm depressed again. at least she dumped me while the sun was out. i was doing ok when the sun was out. if she did it now, man, that would suck

[ericlee]

yeah i imagine a little rejection will be good for me in the long run. i'm looking forward to the part where i'm better off for it. right now though i'm still kind stunned by the whole thing. things seemed to be going so well, you know? they really did. i mean, i may be inexperienced, i may have missed a sign but the last time i was with her i really truly did not get any hint that she wanted to back off. then suddenly she disappears for a week and comes back and says "let's just be friends, i'm not sure i'm ready for a relationship". if you weren't ready for a relationship and you just wanted to be friends why'd you hold my hand and kiss me so much? you don't do that with friends. annoying.

i mean i'll get over it but for now it's still a fresh wound, i think i'm entitled to mope on the internet a little. the stupid sun went down and now i'm depressed again. at least she dumped me while the sun was out. i was doing ok when the sun was out. if she did it now, man, that would suck

Man o man, I remember those words all so well. It happens, man. She's just a little confused herself.

I'm not sure if you have explained that you haven't been in many relationships or not but if you have then maybe your lack of experience kind of makes her feel uneasy and if things do happen to go bad, she probably doesn't want to be the first one that broke your heart. Something like that.

A friend of mine has been dating his girl for 8 years. They haven't married yet but they got a house together, shared the mortgage and such and out of the blue, she decides that she needs alone time and she just ups and moves to her parent's house.

This lasted for less than 2 months. The whole time, my friend was miserable as all hell and didn't know what to think at all. She came back on her own will, without him pestering her and now, they got married and are happier than the first round. She didn't even have anyone else in mind and if she did, he would have known about it.

It happens though. If she doesn't come around then just pimp yourself out and go all out. You're a cool and funny and witty guy, man.

[Bob]

and i will definitely say this - i feel like a chump for paying for all those dinners. maybe she just wanted free food. kind of an inefficient way of going about it if you ask me

[Nicodemus]

look

[ericlee]

look

donde?

[hpdrifter]

if you weren't ready for a relationship and you just wanted to be friends why'd you hold my hand and kiss me so much? you don't do that with friends. annoying.


Well maybe she liked the kissing part as much as you did. You don't have to want to be someone's girlfriend to want to bone them.

Maybe she'll drunk dial you all like, let's fuck. What would you do?

[yeahwho]

I have been on plenty of dates that basically were just the girl wanted to do something and hangout, get chow then maybe a ride home. Every time I think it will develop into something more it doesn't.

There are woman exactly like that out there. grrrrrrrrr. It does keep you on your balance and game.

Sorry to hear about this whole scenario but you did score enough tips on this thread to have some sort of conversation on your first date. Then you went into no mans land the second date now you will be temporarily in the Twilight Zone.

welcome to my world.

[Kid Presentable]

Up until season 3, 30 Rock was just a poor mans Arrested Development.

[Echewta]

Was it two or three get togethers/dates?

[RobMoney$]

WTF are you depressed about? 24 pages dude!
This has to be in the running for most successful BG thread of all times.

[Planetary]

:(

I'm sorry to hear this Bob. Everything happens for a reason though...so there are better things on the horizon!

what if the reason is that he's meant to be alone forever?

[Kid Presentable]

The naughty lass from sure shots is a drunken mistake waiting to happen.(y)

[kaiser soze]

SEX!

[Echewta]

everyone goes through it. It helps you learn to look for the important signs and the gems.

[Bob]

Was it two or three get togethers/dates?

4

[Nicodemus]

Boo!

[Bob]

XXXXX

[Bob]

disclaimer: i'm about to say some really lame shit and i know that it's lame and shitty and as a healthy 25 year old with a normal upbringing i really should be handling the fact that a girl i met on the internet and dated four times rejected me a little better but, well, fuck, it's me, and it hasn't even been 24 hours yet and i really do feel compelled to air this lame shit out somewhere and what better place to do it than here. also i'm pretty drunk (i went out with friends and that was fun while it lasted but now i'm alone in my room on the internet again and the lameness is creeping back)

the more i think about it (and at this point i really can't stop thinking about it, as much as i'd love to), the more i'm sure that i fucked it up by changing my status to "seeing someone". i fucked the whole thing up with a single mouse click (well, three or four technically but that's not important). everything up until then was going really well and only getting better and better and then as soon as i did that she doesn't call me back for a week and says "i'm not sure i'm ready for a relationship, let's just be friends". that was it, that must have been it, what else could it have been? all i had to do was not click that stupid button (well, those three or four stupid buttons technically but that's still not important) and i bet this wouldn't have happened just yet

and it sucks, because i really did like this girl. she was nerdy and goofy and cute and she didn't care that i was nerdy and goofy and boring; i could just be myself around her and she'd still laugh and smile in the cutest and most genuine way and she made me feel confident for a change, you know? but then i clicked those stupid buttons and fucked it up

i dunno. chances are that ultimately it didn't matter; if she wasn't interested in a relationship now, she probably wouldn't be interested in a relationship later. and if i'm being honest, i did want one with her eventually (i don't know if you could tell). this conflict was bound to happen sooner or later. sooner was the better choice i guess.

then again, if i hadn't fucked it up so soon, maybe she'd have grown to like me more and become interested in one. or maybe not. or maybe i'm wrong from the beginning and she dumped me for some other reason. maybe she decided she liked someone else. maybe she dumped me because i'm unemployed. maybe she didn't like my fashion sense. fuck knows.

doesn't matter i guess. it's over regardless.

at any rate, i've learned an important lesson. i just wish i'd learned it with someone a little lamer because goddamn, i did quite like her. she did seem to be sort of one of a kind.

doesn't matter, i'll probably get hit by a car anyway

[Bob]

ugh, that was some lame shit i just posted. but fuck it, i'm leaving it

[Documad]

she did tell me that she didn't find 30 rock funny. it probably never would have worked out

Oh man, that's lame. I love that show. My favorite character might be dot com. That thing he did--pretending to be her boyfriend--it was hilarious.

Bob, I'm sorry. Whatever happened, you learned things by just getting out there and practicing. It's poor manners for her to send an e message instead of returning the phone call. I suppose that even though she was gutless it was better for her to tell you that she wasn't interested than to back away without saying anything at all.

[ms.peachy]

doesn't matter, i'll probably get hit by a car anyway

OH man, that last line totally slayed me. Bob you are so ace.

I'm really sorry it didn't work out with this girl. You're totally allowed to wallow in it for a bit. If you were a chick I'd tell you to go out and buy a pint of Ben & Jerry's and eat it in your bathrobe on the sofa watching, I dunno, something with Sandra Bullock in it or something, but I don't think it works the same way for guys. Maybe buy a big meatball sub and eat it on the sofa in your underpants watching Swingers, that's all I got.

[rirv]

If the froggy come up-a with his
Satchel in his hand,
Then he reaches in the front and
Dump a mile of sand
Across the rug, along the hall
Up to the umbrella stand
That you've been watchin' all the time
Watchin' all the time

And if a forest grows up
From the dirt on the floor,
Then the frog with the satchel had just
Dumped beside the door.
You just startin' to get worried,
You ain't going out no more
And it's confusin' to your mind ----
Just consider this:
You can be scared when it gets too real
You can be scared when it gets too real
But you should be diggin' it
While it's happening. (yes!)
But you should be diggin' it
While it's happening
'cause it just might be
A one-shot deal

You can be lost
And you can wanna be found.
But keep an eye on that frog
Whenever he jump around
Just keep a-watchin' him
You oughta be watchin' him
Just keep a-watchin' him
You wanna be watchin' him
And see if he has brought along
A little bag for you, rant!

I think this is talking about tripping, but a few lines are relevant - you should be diggin' it while it's happening because it might just be a one shot deal.

In other words, you had some hand holding and some kissing, made a connection, had a good time. Yeah you might have made a mistake, but overall you've come out the end of this with more positives than negatives. Go get 'em tiger!

[rirv]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2O_DS6tHmU

Great slide guitar in the middle too.

[Planetary]

Shawty had them Apple Bottom Jeans (Jeans)
Boots with the fur (With the fur)
The whole club was lookin at her
She hit the flo (She hit the flo)
Next thing you know
Shawty got low low low low low low low low

[Adam]

It might of been the mouse click (or the three or four of them) that did it but to me, it sounds like an ex-boyfriend might of made an appearance again or something. When you have two guys or girls in your life sometimes its best to tell them both lets be friends until you work shit out. I'm sure most of us have done it and like others have said, people disappear for a variety of reasons all the time.

Like rirv said, you made a connection and had a few good nights out, you might of had to pay for a few things but experience is more valuable than money you spent. But yeah, it hurts.

[NicRN77]

Bob, you are 25 and still have plenty of dating to do. Its too bad this thing with this chick didn't work out, but that's the dating world. I'm in agreement with the others...maybe an ex or something came back into the picture. I really think it has nothing to do with the fact you changed your status to "seeing someone."

You are allowed to wallow in this for a few days...but things will turn out ok. Volunteer! It will get your mind off things and you will meet some new people!

[Guy Incognito]

planetary, i think your were plus one on the lows

Bob,

yes you are going to feel shit and i know this might seem harsh but its wasted energy thinking about what might have been or that she seemed really suited to you.

To cut a long story short, i went thru a purple patch with the ladies in my twenties but made mistakes everytime and then had a really bad experience and got hung up on what happened for best part of two years. i then spent a long time dwelling on all my mistakes, i did learn a lot but when i finally decided to stop worrying about it then things started happening again.

what i'm trying to say is you know what you did wrong (and that click wasnt the only factor in all this, some of it you couldnt have done anything about) but just take each game as it comes, dont over analyse what happened too much as time will pass you by and you may lose all the confidence you have gained from this experience.

i think she seemed suited because you met on a site where people are matched, sure you liked a lot about this girl but it really doesnt mean she's the only one who you are gonna hit it off with.

People have said the situation might not be totally dead in the water and thats possible but you musnt compromise yourself and avoid other situations in the hope that it might.

i hope all that made sense and was helpful

[Freebasser]

I spent 2 years at university pining over a girl who I thought was 'the one'. She led me on time and time again only to keep saying "I don't want a relationship right now" etc. In those 2 years I passed up so many opportunities with women that I lost count. The worst part was that this girl got pregnant, the dad left her, and then she looked me up on myspace and tried to weasel her way back into my life again (inviting me round to her place etc). I guess I was always a 'Plan B' to her. To be honest, I'm more than glad that I avoided that one.

Don't cling on to the hope of this girl coming back to you, Bob - because it might never happen, and you'll be missing out on some good times. Go out and have fun with your mates and put her out of your mind - before you know it, someone else even more amazing will come into your life (y)

[Adam]

When I think about it, having my heart broken a few times has done me the world of good. Its good to be rejected and if you're like me you get rejected more times that you get accepted. But it becomes easier, first few times suck the hardest but you start to bounce back quicker after that. And with all that, dating gets easier to.

And yeah, volunteer right now. Doing something different will help.

[Lex Diamonds]

Once again my life motto rings true: Bitches aint shit but ho's and tricks.

[Thundercracker]

just ask lots of (noncreepy) questions. girls love talking.

true that.

[Bob]

Maybe buy a big meatball sub and eat it on the sofa in your underpants watching Swingers, that's all I got.

i actually have been considering busting out swingers again

anyway i already feel a little better. i actually (drunkenly) messaged a girl on okcupid last night just cuz and she responded with "you seem cool but your name's a dealbreaker, i know too many bobs already. good luck!"

didn't hurt at all, i'm getting better at this rejection thing already

[Adam]

knows too many Bobs already? what kind of excuse it that?

[Laserface]

i actually (drunkenly) messaged a girl on okcupid last night just cuz and she responded with "you seem cool but your name's a dealbreaker, i know too many bobs already. good luck!"


hahaha

[Guy Incognito]

i actually have been considering busting out swingers again

anyway i already feel a little better. i actually (drunkenly) messaged a girl on okcupid last night just cuz and she responded with "you seem cool but your name's a dealbreaker, i know too many bobs already. good luck!"

didn't hurt at all, i'm getting better at this rejection thing already

fucking hell she's a bit choosy. unless the name is adolf gaylord-dahlmer or something, names should never be a dealbreaker.

[Bob]

knows too many Bobs already? what kind of excuse it that?

i know, right? i don't know what i did wrong! i really thought i had something with this girl. is it because...

nah i'm joking who knows. strange girl found on internet dating website, updates at 11

[Adam]

And especially in america where names of people seem to be pretty unimaginative and are named after their parents. Or so it seemed to me.

But you could reply. You don't know this Bob, and some might say because of that you don't know any Bob...

or something.

[Bob]

nah i think i'm just going to leave it honestly

[Myu-to]

You should text her back, and say "Fine, you can call 'Big Daddy'".

OK, changing your status could have scared her off, however, if she couldn't tell that you are the kind of guy that doesn't want to play games, then she's not right for you. The right girl would have saw that move as you being the genuine guy that you are, and would have understood. Oh well, the world is a big place, and there more women to meet Bob. What about the lil'mama in the family albums sammich day pic?

P.S. Also maybe you should give yourself a cool nickname Edge, Rio, or Mystery.

[Adam]

Edge, Rio, or Mystery.

And if this lawyer gig doesn't work out then he already has a stripper name (y)