things to talk about on first dates

[Kid Presentable]

Once again my life motto rings true: Bitches aint shit but ho's and tricks.

It must have been hard to escape its influence since you were potty-training at the time.

[Bob]

blerg, still sucks after all. every time i see a girl laughing or talking on the phone or holding hands with a dude my heart takes a little dump

not as bad as yesterday though. i bet tomorrow's even better

[Bob]

i really do hope she's as into me as i think she is, otherwise i'll feel like such a dick for gushing about her like this.

yeah i feel like a dick

[Bob]

and i'll add this as well; next time i'm dating a girl that i like and she takes more than three days to return a call i'm going to be well paranoid about it

[Kid Presentable]

You really have to turn this around by drunkenly shagging old naughty face.

[yeahwho]

The four posts I made in this thread were excellent advice, then you went and read the other 700.

That my friend is a recipe for disaster.

[b i o n i c]

disclaimer: i'm about to say some really lame shit and i know that it's lame and shitty and as a healthy 25 year old with a normal upbringing i really should be handling the fact that a girl i met on the internet and dated four times rejected me a little better but, well, fuck, it's me, and it hasn't even been 24 hours yet and i really do feel compelled to air this lame shit out somewhere and what better place to do it than here. also i'm pretty drunk (i went out with friends and that was fun while it lasted but now i'm alone in my room on the internet again and the lameness is creeping back)

the more i think about it (and at this point i really can't stop thinking about it, as much as i'd love to), the more i'm sure that i fucked it up by changing my status to "seeing someone". i fucked the whole thing up with a single mouse click (well, three or four technically but that's not important). everything up until then was going really well and only getting better and better and then as soon as i did that she doesn't call me back for a week and says "i'm not sure i'm ready for a relationship, let's just be friends". that was it, that must have been it, what else could it have been? all i had to do was not click that stupid button (well, those three or four stupid buttons technically but that's still not important) and i bet this wouldn't have happened just yet

and it sucks, because i really did like this girl. she was nerdy and goofy and cute and she didn't care that i was nerdy and goofy and boring; i could just be myself around her and she'd still laugh and smile in the cutest and most genuine way and she made me feel confident for a change, you know? but then i clicked those stupid buttons and fucked it up

i dunno. chances are that ultimately it didn't matter; if she wasn't interested in a relationship now, she probably wouldn't be interested in a relationship later. and if i'm being honest, i did want one with her eventually (i don't know if you could tell). this conflict was bound to happen sooner or later. sooner was the better choice i guess.

then again, if i hadn't fucked it up so soon, maybe she'd have grown to like me more and become interested in one. or maybe not. or maybe i'm wrong from the beginning and she dumped me for some other reason. maybe she decided she liked someone else. maybe she dumped me because i'm unemployed. maybe she didn't like my fashion sense. fuck knows.

doesn't matter i guess. it's over regardless.

at any rate, i've learned an important lesson. i just wish i'd learned it with someone a little lamer because goddamn, i did quite like her. she did seem to be sort of one of a kind.

doesn't matter, i'll probably get hit by a car anyway


she wasnt as cool as you think she was.. any girl can grow to love you. if she did "dump" you (you werent "dumped", the dating was discontiued) for the reasons you said.. FUCK THAT! consider this just some good practice. and please keep us all up to date here. whatever it was that she didnt like, whatever it was that dampened the spark, i really dont think theres much you coulda done differently. JUST KEEP GOING! keep dating! i cant say more than just keep on with your humpty hump. people say that all the time... "she probably wasnt the one" and crap like that. guess what? they're right! there isnt just one person out there for you. in your particular case, id say there are probably about 23 women out there in the world for you.. maybe 24. there's plenty of time, bob. brush it off and move on, this really isnt worth too much more thought other than just using whatever conclusions you come to being of good use in the future. you will meet THAT girl that you're searching for.. you're a good man.. just be patient and keep going like we and you all know you will

[Dorothy Wood]

I think that when something's working or meant to work out, there aren't any mistakes. Maybe there were things you could've have done differently, but if this girl got scared off by you clicking "seeing someone", she has issues anyway and might be trouble in the long run.

I dunno man, people don't make sense. I went out with a dude from okcupid (I made a thread about it) earlier in the summer and we had a great time, made out, etc. He was all, "I really like you". and then nothing. People on here were all, "you should've done this, you shouldn't have done that", but really, it didn't actually matter...he just wasn't for me. It was only one date, so I didn't pine too hard, but I did drunkenly text him on my birthday to say, "you're a dick" while sitting alone in the middle of my friend's backyard. which prompted an apology email from him that actually didn't even say anything at all.

Well here, just read it, I don't give a shit:
Hey, I got your text last night. You're totally right, I am a huge
dick for not calling you after our date. Some shit got fucked up at
work and I just got really busy all of a sudden. That isn't me trying
to make excuses, but I just thought I would tell you why I sort of
went AWOL. I also went back to Texas for a while, but again, it
doesn't excuse not staying in touch and for that I'm sorry. I just
wanted to send this to you and apologize for being such an asshole
about the whole thing. I am truly sorry for hurting your feelings and
I hope you meet someone out there that will treat you better than I
did.

Apologetically,
[dick]
Notice, it was basically like, "yeah, sorry, I hope you find someone else." ha! so still a brush off!


anyway, Bob, it's hard to think of your situation as good practice, but it really was. If I wouldn't have gone out with that guy and then another guy who wasn't right for me, I wouldn't have been completely exhausted by dating and given up on men...which led me to magically start dating my long time crush! hooray!


and seriously, if she didn't like 30Rock, then she has like brain damage or something. that's a big one. BIG. ONE.

[Adam]

I've never seen 30 rock.

[Guy Incognito]

I've never seen 30 rock.

well you have no chance of dating bob then.


what bionic said is bang on, you really didnt do anything wrong. keep plugging away dude

[Bob]

if there's a proper silver lining to any of this, it's that if i ever need anything to think of to kill my boner, it's this experience

yeah, that's right girl, i'm thinking of a lady who dumped me while i'm kissing you, this is well more romantic than me being aroused by you kissing me

to be honest i still don't really understand this faux pas

[Kid Presentable]

Fuck the silly bint, mate. Some people are just looking for an excuse not to have to try.

[miss soul fire]

Fuck the silly bint, mate. Some people are just looking for an excuse not to have to try.

Agreed.

It's not your fault. If she was meant to be, she wouldn't be that scared. I mean, I changed my internet relationship status on the third date! We both were so happy about it. Hihihihi! So, if she was into you like you were into her, then she wouldn't care. If you want her more than she wants you, then what's the point of going out with her?! Someone much better than her will come to you. I know everyone says that, but it is true. And that's it.:o

[abcdefz]

Leave her a message like this. (http://www.holytaco.com/2008/06/27/the-douchiest-phone-message-in-history/)



That's pretty horrifying.

Happy birthday, too, by the way.

[Bob]

oh. hello again thread. good to see you?

it's a little weird though - i'm obviously over it and stuff by now but i did have a dream last night that she contacted me out of nowhere and asked to hang out and i was trying to find this thread so i could ask what i should do.

i don't know what's more bizarre; the timing, or the fact that i have dreams about asking the internet for dating advice.

i should get out more

[Helvete]

Yeah, I've had dreams like that about exs, and then for a few seconds it gets my hopes and blah blah whatever. Got a new girlfriend now but still had the odd dream like this since being with her.

[miss soul fire]

Agreed.

It's not your fault. If she was meant to be, she wouldn't be that scared. I mean, I changed my internet relationship status on the third date! We both were so happy about it. Hihihihi! So, if she was into you like you were into her, then she wouldn't care. If you want her more than she wants you, then what's the point of going out with her?! Someone much better than her will come to you. I know everyone says that, but it is true. And that's it.:o

OMG! This post was a long time ago. I had a boyfriend. I feel so good and free now. I know this topic is not about me, but after reading this I felt so sad for the msf of that day. Everybody I know tell me I'm the happiest person now. Actually, after 30 minutes of breaking up I was a new person. Anyway, good to see this thread, which is not about me, again.:D

[synch]

Leave her a message like this. (http://www.holytaco.com/2008/06/27/the-douchiest-phone-message-in-history/)Oh wow.

Whatever you do Bob, don't turn into this guy and you'll be fine.

edit: Oh... viral...